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Cake Logistics for Restaurant Reception

Samantha, on October 8, 2021 at 2:07 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 6

Okay so I'm 10 months out an obviously do not have to figure out what to do about my cake quite yet but here's the background (sorry, I'm long-winded even when I type):

We're having a small destination wedding in Coronado, CA (we live in Kansas). The restaurant we booked for our reception is walking distance from our beach ceremony location, has adjusted their fixed menu to make more vegetarian options for my fiancé (it's a seafood restaurant) and is honestly a great fit. However, they do have a $3.50/person fee for outside desserts (somewhere between $120 and $140 that can't be counted towards our food & beverage minimum). Dessert is included with each meal (key lime pie - my fave! - or mud pie), so the bakery I am talking to recommended a single tier 6" or 8" cake (we're talking $80 max before taxes and tip). We ditched a lot of traditions that didn't fit us and our wedding, but the cake cutting was one of the things I wanted to keep (and wow FH loves cake), but I'm not sure how to make it work. It makes next to zero sense financially to pay the restaurant more than the cost of the cake to get a few cake cutting pictures, and because of the nature of our reception and the lack of a "grand exit" our photographer is not staying the entire evening (she'd get bored, let's be honest).

My mom's suggestion was to just cut the cake back at the hotel afterwards and that "we can take pictures for you" but an iPhone picture is just not what I had in mind, ya know? The only other thing I can really think of is getting our cake cutting pictures in right after our first look at the hotel before we walk over to the beach, but I'd love for it to be after we're married. Asking the photographer to add two hours on would end up costing more than the outside dessert fee, so that's out.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this or has anyone had this weirdly specific issue before?

I think I'm going to reach out to the restaurant and clarify that it's $3.50/person not $3.50/serving, but honestly I think I might just bite the bullet and pay the fee for the sake of a schedule that makes sense and getting to have pictures of us cutting our cake.

(okay, as I type this I feel like I sound silly and like the normal response would be to skip the cake or cut the key lime pie at the restaurant or something, but..)


Latest activity by Nicole, on October 8, 2021 at 8:46 PM
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    So this was pretty normal in my venue search to have venues charge a cutting fee. It’s pretty dumb but I saw it everywhere.
    Do you need to have a cake or would you be open to cutting something else? I’m wondering if you could have the restaurant make their key lime pie and you just use that for cutting?
    Or maybe they can make a small cake that you can cut? Since the fee is only for outside desserts, maybe if they make the dessert you wouldn’t have to pay the fee.
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  • Ariel
    Devoted October 2021
    Ariel ·
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    The cake cutting seems important to you so you should Keep it. I’m not sure what your beach set up is like, but could you cut the cake at the beach prior to dinner? Untraditional but it could be a beautiful backdrop.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Why can’t you cut the existing dessert you are serving and save the cost of the fee. Plus phone cameras are very high quality now since many films now are being made with them as a result.
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  • S
    Expert September 2022
    Sarah ·
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    I was going to suggest this. Are you willing to do maybe a cupcake or something?

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    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    I wouldn’t want to pay that much to bring in a cake either.
    I’m going to echo what others have said, can you cut it after the ceremony at the beach? A mini cake and punch reception before dinner?
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  • Nicole
    Master September 2020
    Nicole ·
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    Can you incorporate the cake cutting into the ceremony? Maybe as a unity type thing? How many people are you expecting? Maybe someone can volunteer to cut up the cake and give it to guests after the ceremony before heading to the restaurant?
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