Cake Cutting question

Our DJ announced it and we stood up there, the matre'D instructed us where to cut. The photographer takes pictures. You cut the cake, you get a slice and feed each other a bite. That's what usually happens. That's how ours went lol

You can do whatever you want. Most people make an announcement and feed each other. I don't want to do that at all. We are planning on just telling our moms and photographer, no announcement. So we can just cut the cake, gets pics and move on. We want as much time to spend with out guests as possible.

Thanks guys... stupid things like this occupy my mind. lol

Kathryn, ask for forks. They are not always provided and it can get messy (and lead to cake smashing)

When do most people do this?? I always thought it was after dinner but the last few weddings i went to do it right after they walked in

I was actually talking to FH about this last night. He didn't understand what the big deal was. I was trying to figure out how we're going to do it and if we're going to feed each other, etc. He doesn't like that idea so I guess we will just cut it without feeding each other.

We skipped it all together. When we entered the reception an announcement was made... There won't be any toasts, bouquet tossing or cake cutting. Please eat, drink, socialize and enjoy the live music. It was the perfect reception for us.

I'm with Raelyn. Does this usually happen immediately following dinner/before dancing and what not, or is it a break in the middle of dancing?

I've seen it done right when people walk in after the first dance/ speeches. And I have seen it done after dinner. I wouldn't take a break from dancing as I feel that would break up the party and people would be more open to leaving.

Cake cuttings are the dumbest thing ever. You cut a slice of cake for yourselves. That's it. Then you go eat it. I was talked into having it by the DOC so people would know when it was ok to dance. We did it after dinner.

In retrospect, I would have preferred the DJ to say "Cake is being served after dessert! Feel free to dance!" or whatever.

@Melissa So typically people cut cake, dance, toast and then eat dinner?

I think after dinner sounds good. i feel like itd be wierd to walk right in and do it.

We are cutting the cake right after dinner, right before the special dances with our parents, then opening up the dance floor for the rest of the night.

@Kathryn and @Anna to me after dinner makes more sense. When I walk in I want to sit down and eat and make my rounds and then cut cake before the dancing. To me it doesn't make sense to do it right when you walk in.

My DJ said that most older guests take the cake cutting as the sign the reception is ending soon. Obviously, if you do it really early they won't leave right after, but they might leave earlier than they would if they were still waiting for you to cut the cake. We'll probably do it sometime after dancing has started.

We'll make an announcement and do the whole cutting the cake together thing. I don't want to feed each other, but FH does. He promises he won't smash it in my face, but feeding each other just seems too *cute* to me.

We introduced bridal party, told them to all go stand near the cake, and then BOOM we were introduced and cut the cake right away, and then dessert was served with dinner. ESPECIALLY if you have a buffet, do it before so people don't have to go up twice.

ETA It was not awkward at all, it was more awkward at the last two weddings i've gone to where people were taking cake before it was officially cut

I'm having the venue cut the cake and serve it 30 minutes before reception ends. Eat your cake then it's over... I'm not cutting it.

@e=mc2 that's an interesting to think about. How were people taking cake before it was cut?

@Emily- i agree..

I guess this wasnt as stupid of a question as i thought. there are lots of opinions on this.

@Rebecca - exactly. Back in the day, it was the signal that it's ok to leave without being rude. I think now it's just a fun thing to smash cake in each other's faces haha