Thank you for any help you can give. I'm the first of my friends to get married and which that's exciting I don't really have any people for advice. We have been looking at San Francisco adjacent (within 3 hours drive) outdoor venues for the past month now, have contacted 78 (yes you read that right) and looked at 6 in person. While I don't think we are getting that specific with what we want (forest vibe, on the less expensive side, fully outdoor ceremony in the trees and reception either in the forest or on a lawn, established bathrooms and electricity) it is apparently impossible to find for less than 8k (or 18k total food, open bar, venue for 100 ppl) that isn't booked. We are willing to go around a 3hr drive from SF and would prefer any Saturday in August, September, and October in 2020.
Right now I'm just feeling super overwhelmed. I keep getting too emotionally invested in venues and then they are either 20k or fully booked for 2020. I have legit cried twice in the last 3 days which is more than the last 3 months. Am I going crazy? Is it this hard for everyone? Is a 14 month engagement too short for the bay area? Does a foresty venue even exist at an affordable cost? Any and all suggestions, thoughts, and advice are more than welcome.