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By Myself? Am i an A**hole?

Caitlin, on August 27, 2020 at 8:37 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 21
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Is it rude to walk down the isle by myself? I never really had a father figure growing up .I really dont think my dad can make it to my wedding due to him having alot of health and financial issues. So his appearance might make everyone else feel uncomfortable and i dont want to have to worry about him being made fun of. I mean i dont have the best relationship with him anyway but i just care about him.. My mom suggested my brother but ehh. I feel like i should just do it by myself and let it be my moment. So.... am i an A**hole? ha


Latest activity by Samantha, on August 29, 2020 at 5:46 PM
  • Jana
    Rockstar October 2022
    Jana ·
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    It's very common to walk down the aisle by yourself. Most people don't view it as rude at all. If someone does find it rude, their priorities are in the wrong place. Do what works for you.
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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I am walking alone. My father passed when I was young and my big brother has horrible stage fright. I do not just want anyone so I am. I do not think it is because your an A hole rather that is a special role and you prefer to do it alone or have someone meaningful do it. It is ok.

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  • Jessica
    Rockstar September 2020
    Jessica ·
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    I’m walking alone too. My dad abandoned us when he found out my mom was pregnant and doesn’t deserve that honor. I’m also 33 and don’t feel like I need someone to “give me away.” I considered asking my mom to walk with me, but she’s doing a reading instead.
    FH and I have also discussed walking in together.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    You can walk yourself that’s not a problem. I think either that or your brother would be fine
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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don’t think it’s rude. I walked down the aisle by myself and it was mostly because I just felt like it was my own journey
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  • L
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I've seen weddings before where the bride walked down by herself. I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all!
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Nope. Not at all. You can walk by yourself, with your betrothed, or halfway then walk together. My hubby & I walked together. Cute and comforting.
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  • Kell
    VIP April 2021
    Kell ·
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    Of course not. It's perfectly fine to walk alone.
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  • Sarah
    Super August 2021
    Sarah ·
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    No you are not. Theres nothing wrong with walking yourself. I was considering walking alone since I don't have a father but we are having siblings in our wedding party. My fh has 2 sisters and I have 3 brothers. So I decided that one is going to walk me only to make it even.
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    Judith ·
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    It is a fine choice for any woman who comes to her marriage an independent person, whether she has a great Dad or other escort available or not. Just present it that way, and other people can make of it what they will.
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  • Isadora
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Isadora ·
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    You are not the first nor the last! I had the same idea until my uncle suggested that I walk down the isle with my mom, who played both roles, mom & dad. She was thrilled when I asked her. Good luck!
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  • Hanna
    Super June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    Plenty of brides walk down the aisle alone all the time!

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  • E
    Dedicated May 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I'm most likely going to walk alone. This is my 2nd marriage so my dad already gave me away once. No need to do that again lol. Plus, we aren't really that close. I have horrible stage fright so I'll probably be shaking or super emotional but I'll get through it. If I make it to my FH without falling, it's a win lol.
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  • Kimberly
    Super March 2021
    Kimberly ·
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    Not. At. All.
    I am walking alone as well for a couple of reasons. I have a fine relationship with my father, but growing up he wasn’t really a great dad. He was there sometimes and I knew he loved me, but it wasn’t a daddy/daughter relationship. I always thought I’d have my grandfather who mostly raised me walk me. But as we got closer to it being a reality I realized that it would possibly be hurtful to my dad if I asked my grandfather so I decided I’d just walk alone. And, well now that I’m actually getting married at 44 years old I just don’t feel I need anyone to walk me down the aisle and “give me away”. I’ve been on my own for many many years now. I can walk myself down that aisle. 😁
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  • Jai Butcher
    Rockstar May 2020
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    My husband and I walked in together
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  • Katie
    Expert August 2021
    Katie ·
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    No not at all. Brides do it all the time.
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  • Marisa
    Rockstar May 2021
    Marisa ·
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    I think it makes sense. For our minimony I don’t want to put my dad at risk so I am walking in by myself.

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  • Heather
    Dedicated November 2020
    Heather ·
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    Do it girl! Whatever gets you down that isle!

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  • Kayse
    Devoted December 2020
    Kayse ·
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    To reiterate what others have said, not at all! When I got engaged I told my parents they could do whatever they wanted. Dad already gave me away once, so I wasn't sure if he'd want to do it again and was completely fine to walk alone.

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  • Kirsten
    Devoted October 2020
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    I don't think so at all! You do you. Some wedding traditions have dropped off because the original reasons for them (father giving his daughter to another man/ family) don't apply. I think it's really independent and bada$$ to see a strong woman walking her own self toward her future. 🙂
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