Buying myself a new ring??

There is nothing wrong with getting a new ring, my MIL who has been married fourty years has gone thru several rings. I will probably do the same.

Your fh should not be mad you want a new ring. Tell him you arent going to ditch the ring you have now, you just want something more fitting to you now.

Good luck, tell us if you get a new ring!

I can understand why he doesn't want you to get a new ring.....it's YOUR ring that HE got for you. I think you should stick with the ring.....the one he gave to you and proposed to you with. Maybe down the road you can get an anniversary band to go with it or something.

Personally, I would not request another ring because it holds so much sentimental value to me. On the other hand, I think it would be worse if your FH picked out the ring and put so much thought into it and you ended up not liking it. From what I read, you chose it, you bought it, so really I think asking for an upgrade in this particular situation is not AS hurtful as it could have been.

Don... I googled that picture a few moths ago to put on facebook as a joke.

My best friend had a very similar situation. Only difference, her now husband, didn't even try and figure out what she would like...so she ended up with a 3 stone e-ring. After seeing mine and our friend's e-ring, she grew envious b/c she had always wanted a solitaire. When I first got engaged, she attempted to ask for an upgraded ring...but her husband kept saying no. It wasn't until after our friend got engaged, that her husband finally admitted he flubbed...now, this Saturday, she gets her new solitaire ring that she picked.

Her advice would probably be tactful and just keep on plugging away...she got her new ring 6 months after they were married. I know they even got into some arguments about it too. But she always remained positive.

Wow I missed lots of fun while I was asleep last night!

Well I agree w/ what Cydney said. Try to find a way to bring it up tactfully...maybe you can compromise and upgrade for an anniversary gift in a year. Maybe you could wear your current ring on your other hand when you are able to upgrade? I can understand the sentimental value behind your current ring since it's what he proposed with.

I think we (mainly Don) are missing the point, the OP said SHE picked out the ring..not him. I think some of the points or criticisms of her hold less weight due to that fact.

Anywho, Joy, is he stubborn with a lot of things, or just the ring..maybe gently ask why he'd have such a problem with it..like maybe he feels you should all just save up money for other things like rent/mortgage etc right now..or maybe he feels bad for the circumstances like that he couldn't pick you out a ring you would love then before he was working? Good luck!

I get that you plan on paying with your own money but it's rude. I chose my ring, I know my fiancee would buy me a bigger one if I asked. But this is the ring I CHOSE and the ring I plan on wearing the rest of my life. It gets stuck on everything and annoys me a lot but it has sentimental value. You should be happy that you are getting married to a man you love. The ring shouldn't matter.

I agree with Jamie H. maybe an anniversary ring down the line would be a better thing to do.

Wow--went to bed and this thread blew up! FWIW, the FH agrees that Don is a troll. lol And Joy, I hope you were able to wade through the posts and find some suggestions to help you. I know they're there. I've seen them!