But we don't want a honeymoon!

I think you are crazy. What an awesome opportunity! How do you know you're not a traveller if you have never really tried??

Agree 100% with SunshineJenn

OP is assuming that her daughter will be spanked and locked in a room. But no one can see the future. She's not parenting her for life, she's watching her for one week. For all anyone knows, the daughter and grandma have a great time together.

My parents let me cry a lot of things out to learn how to self-soothe, but is Grandma really going to lock her in a room because she's upset about missing you? If she's that much of a heartless cow, then I don't blame you, but surely you can find someone else to watch her while you're gone. It doesn't really matter if she gets mad about that or not.

SunshineJenn, it's probably a good thing your uterus "belongs to no one but me". Good parents don't hand their children over to strangers to be aggressively handled and locked away where no one can hear them for hours to cry alone because they miss their parents. If that makes us over protective then we'll take that title and wear it proudly. If FH doesn't feel comfortable with his mother alone with our daughter, that's all I need to know.

Us crazy over protective parents DO have people we feel comfortable leaving DD with, but even if FMIL were Mary poppins or we were to leave her with someone else, OR we could take DD with us, we sill don't want to go to the beach. I've been, he's been, we don't want to go back or to another one somewhere else.

I have a relative who offers lavish trips to us and other family members all the time but they are always super specific about what is and what is not included. They are ALL two person/couples only deals. I guess he gets these package deals through work - it works very much like a Groupon actually. We have never taken him up on an offer. Sure, it might be cool to go to Bora-Bora or New Zealand but they are almost always sudden notice, off season, weird dates, strange stipulations (like they pay for the flight there, but we must rent a car from X rentals on our dime to get the ticket back home, or we must eat all meals at X restaurant.)

^^^I have a feeling it's something like that Gray!!

Munkos, clearly it is a no-go for you...no matter how lavish the vacay is, you clearly won't be able to enjoy yourself with all things considered.

My suggestion: let your FH handle it between him and his brother Something will work out, but may just not this trip

You could pick somewhere like like the south of France or parts of Spain, think beaches or even Italy. Then take a train and go all over. See Marseilles or Cannes, travel to Rome or wherever. He can think beach, but that's not what you are stuck doing.

I don't see anything wrong with a grandparents (safely) spoiling their grandchild for a week. It is a week. You aren't leaving her with them forever so it isn't really raising her so her views aren't so important. We now live a few hours from family. My daughter spends most of the summer with her grandparents and great grandparents. Trust that our views are often not the same, but my daughter gets a bond with these people who love her. She gets new experiences. Unless she is a horrible, violent woman or has Alzheimer's or a mental illness and is a danger to herself, she is the person who raised the man you love. I would hope that means something. The first summer that I let my little one go was as hard as anything. I didn't sleep. She was having a ball.