Busy year aside from wedding.. anyone else?

Eh yes and no.. we had already known about two events so I guess we can’t count those but with the holidays, our daughters birthday and both nieces and both nephews birthdays it has been a little crazy

View Quoted Comment I can imagine! My FH has 11 nieces and nephews so we will have all of their birthdays too. It might be because we’ve had an 18 month engagement so a ton of stuff has came up unexpectedly.

We are moving across the country at the end of this lease (July) and getting married April '21. We still have no idea which state due to his job (archivist) being one thats not in huge demand. Im stressed because I work in landscaping and have no idea which plant zone Im going to work in, let alone if theres plants (that dont grow in Zone 5) I need to brush up on and really know before I kill someones lawn. We are trying for Maine, which is his homestate and wedding state but who knows what will happen. On top of that uhauls are expensive and in our case, inevitable due to my plant collection and vintage furniture I am not letting go of.

View Quoted Comment Glad we aren’t alone haha it’s like crazy how fast time goes bu

We have a lot planned for this year. At the beginning of January I decided I wanted to go back to college instead of going back to work after a recent hip surgery. So I signed up for 4 courses, we have our wedding in may, a week before my finals oh boy. And then in the beginning of june me and husband have to go to Tennessee for a week to find jobs and a place to live so we can move there once our son is done with his school for the summer. While we get settled into a new state completely we also have the discussion of me continuing school there as well as when to continue our family. We also have a wedding in October that we more than likely wont be able to make which is sad. But yes this year is booked full! And I kind of like it.

Remember that you don't have to say yes to everything, especially if some of these events would be a financial burden that you can't handle. I totally get that it's frustrating, but at least for us, this is something we've regularly been dealing with for years.

We've been engaged since August 2018 and at that time, the only major event I knew about coming up in 2020 was my sister's graduation (which requires significant travel). Now, we still have that, but I also have a work trip planned, I'm in a summer destination wedding, friends are buying houses and having babies and the parties that go along with those, etc. Hamilton is coming back to my city and I'd love to see it, but that's something we have to say no to.

It's going to be tricky, especially since we're paying for everything ourselves, but we're only participating in things that are absolutely necessary, and will hopefully find a way to make it all work!

I feel you! We’re busy because we did it to ourselves lol. I’m in grad school and we are currently looking for our first house! We also recently lost our first cat (a week ago today) and it was so so unexpected and the grieving process hasn’t been easy. We’re looking to adopt another one sometime soon. Feel free to not say yes to everyone! Your mental and financial well being come first.

Sometimes it is just the cycles of life. There are times like right after school ends, when people who waited for a graduation date marry. Or 18 months to two years after school or military service, when they have been on their own, maybe lived together a while, and suddenly feel ready to marry. My first wedding was when just leaving college after undergrad, having taken many courses toward my grad degree but wanting a different grad program. And him graduating, and getting his first job across the country. So in Jan, a free years together, we said? Why not May. In that year we went to 10 other weddings together, of people we went to high school or college with, also at that crossroads time. Wanting to marry before friends scatter. We turned down more than 25 weddings, in that spring and summer. Just because we could not afford travel, having married, moved, and started paying for school. I was widowed that September. Fast forward many years, weddings came in bunches, and not surprisingly, baby celebrations came in bunches. I come from a large family, many kids, and parents from large families, cousins. Years of no occasions, years of 4-10. But hubby and I met after both of us had just left the service, finishing grad school. Went to so many of our service buddies ( his and mine) weddings and baby things in the 10 months of dating ( and me finishing grad school Jan, him May, worked our way through.) Engaged May, Married Oct. And we each were in weddings ( me, 7, him, 5) we had agreed to do before we met, or when we had only dated a couple months. We each had siblings and cousins who married that year. Spring, summer, and fall, we went to 15 weddings together. And two weekends we were each in weddings hundreds of miles apart. At our wedding, we had a nursery for 13 babies newborn to 15 months. One of us had been to all the parents marriages. It was a fun blitz April to December. One weekend a Friday, a Saturday, and a Sunday morning wedding. His brother, my sister, my college roommate. And while we were doing this we planned the wedding. It was a wonderful and exhausting time. We both worked through grad school and had saved for it while in the service, wanting no debt. But to pay for our wedding entirely, we worked second jobs to afford it. And in spite of 60-64 hour work weeks, still had a blast. It kept us very focused and disciplined in our planning. Just a 5 month engagement, we had to be. But so many people getting married, all those occasions were romantic. Only 2 morning weddings without dancing. We had other people in wedding mode to talk to, share with. People would say, aren't you upset your two sisters and brother, or two first cousins, are marrying this same year ( and same to then FI, 2 sibs 2 cousins) . And we thought that ridiculous. We were all having a ball. Wedding and baby things always overlap in large families. But it was similar age friends suddenly settling down, after finally meeting someone, or a school or military, or financially secure at last moment, that led to this all at once thing. I love to entertain, and to cook. And worked years in catering off and on. So I was thrilled to throw 9 showers that year myself, or with someone else helping. All with lots of cooking. Because with so many people marrying and some in each other's weddings, of my friends and family, it seemed there would be no other volunteers thus no shower if someone did not speak up. And we can't let that happen ... No matter how much is going on, each bride deserves her separate honor and shower, right. I say enjoy this year. Wait til the babies start coming. It is both exciting and romantic, to have all these special trips, and parties.

I agree! I feel like everything has exploded since we got engaged. It's turning into a year of growth and changes in both of our lives.

It definitely is a busy year for us. We already got save the dates for 2 weddings this year and my fh is a groomsman for 2 other weddings. All 4 of these are in a 2 month period in August-October and only one of these weddings is in state for us. There could be one or two more we don’t know about yet. FH wants to go to all of them and I’m trying to explain to him that that might not be possible with all the associated costs and time off (he works weekends).

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry to hear about your cat. I feel better knowing that I’m not the only one who feels this way.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for sharing your story! I’m sure I’ll
Look back at this year and appreciate it ❤️

View Quoted Comment I understand! I want to go to my friends elopement in Vegas, but it’s 2 months after our wedding and I just don’t know. I’m going to try to plan for it and see what happens.

View Quoted Comment Yes it is! Sometimes I wish time would slow down

View Quoted Comment I’m also starting a masters program, looking for a new job, and we’re looking to buy a condo. So it will be a very busy year. I told him we’ll have to see when they get closer. I’m also a very shy and quiet person and big social events where I don’t know a lot of people are usually overwhelming for me.

We had our own wedding, my brother's wedding, and my brother-in-law's wedding all in one year from April-August. It was a lot. My sister was also supposed to be getting married, but she called off her engagement. She ended up meeting someone else and eloped in December.

View Quoted Comment Wow that’s a lot!

Oh yes! After we got engaged we have learned that 4 of our friends/family will be getting married in the 9 months before us, and two are destinations! It’s crazy. I also am still in law school so I’m so limited on being able to work and make money. It’s been really stressful actually.

Yes and no 😅 right now I feel good but in my post history I made a "1 year to go" post mentioning how many things I WILL have going on haha.
We have two weddings, both destination, within 2 weeks of each other. Luckily they're both February (actually will be at my best friends wedding on our 4 year anniversary! 🥰) and our date is November so plenty of recovery time. We also have some annual stuff we do with friends like Renaissance Fair (with Pleasure Feast) and we host the annual Halloween party, etc.
However, I graduate December after we marry, will be changing my name and address, changing jobs, and probably more I'm forgetting from that post.

YES! We're at the age where everyone is getting engaged and married. We'll have 7 weddings to go to this year which means paying for accommodations and gifts. We're also trying to purchase a house before July which is a little stressful. It will definitely be a bit of a struggle of the course of the next 10 months.