Business Trip the Weekend Before Wedding - Dealbreaker?

I think it's really up to you. For me it would depend on what 3-4 days it was. I wouldn't want to return on Friday and have my wedding Saturday. You can prepare as much as possible, but there are some things that can't be done until a day or two before the wedding.

View Quoted Comment I’d be getting home early Sunday before a Saturday wedding. I agree - if it was getting back on Wednesday or Thursday it would be a dealbreaker for sure. But with Sunday it’s right at the edge of being comfortable lol

If you think you can go and not stress constantly about the last minute details, I say go for it. I usually go to a camping festival every year. This year it happens to be the weekend before our wedding. I am still open to only going up for the day to see everyone but not camp, but my fiancé is confident I can go for the weekend, and we both agree it may help to have a weekend without responsibilities right before the stress of putting all our plans together for the big day. It may take a bit of extra planning but I think you'll know if you feel comfortable trying to pull this off.

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I would go for it. That's definitely doable with enough preparation!

I definitely think that's enough time to come home, decompress, and get ready for the wedding. It'd also give you a reason to have most everything done early haha

You need to be comfortable with your decision, but I don't think it's a deal breaker if your mom and fiance are involved. If they weren't and the planning were solely on your shoulders that would be a different case. I think it'll be a stressful time, but maybe it'll be good to have some time away and there'll still be people at home to deal with anything that may come up.

I think it’s doable, as long as you plan for it.

No. Life goes on around wedding planning. If it’s not this, it will be something else. We didn’t stop doing things just because our wedding was approaching.

I went away the weekend before our wedding. It was my bachelorette weekend, so a bit different, but we planned it that way for a friend who was traveling in from out of town and it made
it easier on her. I was a bit nervous of being away my last weekend, but it was what worked best, so I embraced it. It meant I had to be a little extra organized to get a lot of things done before the weekend, so I could be more
relaxed, but that totally worked to my advantage to have so many things already checked off the list! It was so amazing, in the end, to take that whole last weekend off from wedding brain, wedding stress, wedding thoughts— and despite my initial hesitations, it was so perfect, I can’t imagine having done it any other way!

My first wedding, I was working full-time and going to law school at night through Friday, had the wedding on Sunday, and then was back to work and school on Monday. It's doable. Just don't start thinking that you have to have a bunch of last-minute DIY projects. DIY is a lot less necessary in general than people think it is. (Many of the things people DIY are things they really didn't need in the first place.) And you don't save anything on DIY if the need to do it means your career is permanently impaired by failing to do something important for your career.

I don’t see a problem with it. If you’re invited to the conference, it sounds like a great opportunity. If you’re succeeding in your career, it’s only going to help give stability in your marriage. If you end up not being invited, you’ll still get to marry the man you love. Seems like a win-win to me!

Yikes! I would schedule a month after your retreat. The last 30 days are super stressful and the week of is crazy. 🤯

Thank you all! I think if our dream venue is only available that weekend, I think we will go for it! I have faith in my support system and all of the great advice I've been getting