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Just Said Yes August 2019

Budget

Susan, on July 10, 2019 at 8:08 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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Ok all you brides out there. How do you plan your wedding on a budget. I wanted my family to be at my wedding but we live out state and we are paying for ourselves. So I feel bad cause we are just basically eloping at a church but I really want a nice small wedding. It makes me so mad cause you can't spend like 3000. I can't see spending for what 8 hours like 10000 or more. It's seems you say wedding n it like well that would be a couple thousand. Just to get your hair n make up done without trail run is like 400.00. Like hello we aren't all rich here. So how do you have your wedding on budget? Thanks for letting me vent!! I know our wedding for us and our future husband not to basically for the entertainment for our family and friends. Plus I heard it better cause no drama with people.

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Latest activity by Sinéad, on July 11, 2019 at 7:20 AM

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Fany · on July 10, 2019 at 8:34 PM
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I’m planning on eloping and I’m confident that I won’t regret it. I’ll just be signing papers to legalize the marriage. Then we will have a celebration at my in-laws’ house or my dad’s house a few weeks to a few months later.
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Michelle · on July 10, 2019 at 8:51 PM
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You just pick a budget that you're comfortable with and stick with it! it is what it is and don't go above what you can afford no matter what. Keep the guest list small and your $3,000 can go far.
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Melle · on July 10, 2019 at 9:38 PM
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Most of the money goes towards reception because it's food for a ton of people so if you keep it small or if you find cheap catering or cheap ways to do it, it helps. I found this significantly cheaper caterer but ended up going a different route because it wasn't the kind of food I wanted. So ultimately all these choices are up to what you want if you can research to find it.
Don't be afraid to negotiate or to ask for help.
In hindsight what I learned though was that if all you had was a mehhh dinner and no other things like favors or photo booth or dj or whatever, it doesn't even really matter because everyone is just happy to be there to celebrate you.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on July 10, 2019 at 9:42 PM
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Get married at your church and treat your immediate families to lunch or dinner at a nice hotel restaurant or restaurant (private room). A lovely restaurant won’t need much decor. No DJ/dancing needed either. 😊
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Alisha · on July 10, 2019 at 9:44 PM
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You can set a budget that you are comfortable with and do diys that you think you like at your wedding. The biggest cost is your venue such as a beautiful park that has beautiful views and food. try to keep it simple and try to stay within your budget.
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Monique · on July 10, 2019 at 11:06 PM
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Honestly, prioritize where you want most of your money to go! Or my FH and I actually ended up putting small amount/no money into things that we didn't care much about or thought that we could go ourselves. For example, neither of us are very dancey and our crowd isn't very dancey either so we aren't hiring a DJ. And I don't want to spend a lot of money on a dress that I'll wear for 1 day so I'm looking at online sales, bridesmaid dresses that can be ordered in white, etc.
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D · on July 10, 2019 at 11:41 PM
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Price hunt everything. Look at DIY venues that have chairs and tables...Like local parks and rec buildings, community centers.
Buy along the way. Buy one or two things each month for the wedding if you can. After you've made deposits of course.
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Courtney · on July 11, 2019 at 12:06 AM
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We booked an all-inclusive venue- which was a little pricey- but we felt it was worth it to not arrange two different spaces, transportation, rentals, caterers, bartenders, etc. All of the work was being done for us in one place by the same group of people.
We were okay with this because I knew I could save us money elsewhere. So far we're saving nearly $2k and expected to come in under budget. We DIY-ed what we could, shopped sales, thrifted, asked for favors, you name it!
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2d Bride · on July 11, 2019 at 1:00 AM
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The biggest hint is to think about what is actually important to you. You can get married for $100 or so if just the two of you go to the courthouse. So add things to that only to the extent they are important enough to you to be worth the money.
Hair and make-up for $400? You presumably do your own hair and make-up every day. There is nothing wrong with just doing the same thing for your wedding day.
And the same goes for every aspect of the wedding. You don't need a wedding dress, or a wedding cake, or flowers, or a lot of lavish decorations. You can have just your immediate family there, not all your relatives and everyone else you know.
This is not to say that you shouldn't have those things. It's just that too many couples get all wrapped up in Platinum Weddings or Pinterest, and think they have to have a bunch of things they really don't need. If you stick to what is actually important to you, not what you saw on Pinterest, you can keep the cost of the wedding within your budget.
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Sinéad · on July 11, 2019 at 7:20 AM
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Hey Susan! Congratulations on your engagement!
To reiterate what the other posters have mentioned, you should absolutely have the wedding that you and your SO want and can afford. If what you want is to get married at your local church and go for dinner together after, that sounds wonderful. If you want to have some family and friends there to celebrate with you, that’s also a wonderful idea. Have you discussed together what exactly you want from your wedding day? It’s important to stay on the same page about these things.
If you want to have some family and friends present, you could look into some local restaurants that have a private dining area so that you can have a delicious meal together as a celebration after your marriage.
Everyone totally understands how expensive weddings can be, so there will be no hard feelings or drama from family and friends once you guys are being true to yourselves and celebrating the way you want to.
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