Brother's girlfriend as bridesmaid?

If you're close with her, go for it! Just don't feel pressured and regret it down the road.

8 bridesmaids? you are a better person than i.

I don't feel this would be in any way taboo. Whether she's in the bridal party or not, I'm fairly certain you're going to have photoed documentation that she was there. If neither you nor your brother see an issue and it's something you've been leaning towards, I say go for it.

I wouldn't. Seven is already a lot. These really should be your nearest and dearest.

Seems like a really big bridal party to begin with, but if she's someone who you feel close enough to and want standing up there with you then it's your choice.

Seven bridesmaids is plenty, then again, once you have that many, what's one more? Still, my vote is no. Only because eight bridesmaids.

I wouldn't ask her unless you're very close to her. If you want to include her maybe ask her do a reading during the ceremony.

Thanks guys! I'm still kind of going back and forth on it. Haha I know it's a big bridal party, but I just wouldn't say I'm closer with any one of my friends than the others. I thought about it, and I talk to all of these girls every day. If I tried to trim it down I would essentially be randomly picking and choosing, which I don't want to do. They're all pretty laid back and all get along so I'm not too worried about it being overwhelming!

My own personal experience and opinion. My SIL and I have been best friends for 20 years and her family has always been an extension of my family. For 5 years her brother and I dated and in this time his younger sister got married and I was a bridesmaid. A couple of years later we broke up. What saved those wedding pictures was my always having been a part of the family and still remained so after her brother and I broke up. You noticed I said SIL? We finally got our act together and married! LOL.

My advice is not to have her part of the BP. If they were really long term committed like 10 years, sure, but even at 3 years, with medical school going on, and not at least engaged, things can still suddenly change and without another relationship dynamic to lean on they would become awkward pictures.

I wouldn't ask her only because it's a lot of bridesmaids already - but if your BP throws you a bach party or shower you can definitely ask to have her included.

They could get married and divorced and she'd be in your pictures. I would ask her if you want to.

I would really be worried that something would happen in between and they would no longer be together by the time of the wedding and 8 bridesmaids seems like a lot to me. I dont think she will be offended just make sure you brother never tells her you were considering it.

FH sister asked me to be in her wedding before we were engaged. We are not close at all so I thought it was weird but accepted. If you are close with her definitely do it. And if your brother thinks he'll be with her forever.

I don't understand what their not yet engagement has to do with being your bridesmaid.

You're either close friends with her- or you aren't.

And honestly- you have 7 already.

That's 7 gifts. 7 schedules. 7 bouquest.

Your pushing almost 100$ a girl already.

Plus the anxiety of having to deal with them all.

Hard pass.

I would recommend asking her to be a reader. It's a nice gesture to include her in all the activities, without having her be a BM. Plus you can ask her when it get closer to the wedding. What would happen if they did break up - would you stay friends? If not, that could be really uncomfortable for your family. Ultimately I don't think there is a right or wrong - just more of a problem if they broke up