Brother wedding soon after mine

While I understand your disappointment, I think the best thing you could do is just make peace with this and let it go. They have already set their date, so nothing you do is going to change that at this point. Continuing to harbor resentment is only going to ruin your own wedding planning experience, and possibly your relationships with your family and friends. I know we get super wrapped up in our weddings, but you need to remind yourself that at the end of the day this is just a party. It is not worth ruining your sanity or relationships over.
Congratulations on your engagement! I hope you’re able to move on from this and enjoy this fun experience!

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I can understand you may feel overwhelmed by these big money events. However, you may not need to provide much financial investment as the groom's side. Bridal showers are optional and you don't have to be the host for your FSIL. Bridal parties are even optional and you don't have to be each other's bridesmaids, saving both of you money on dresses, etc. The Mexico destination wedding is a bit different, but you have some time to stalk fair flight prices, etc.

Try to enjoy this happy time where many of your loved ones are also finding love and commitment. In time, you can have a honeymoon. Most people pay for their own weddings in some way, and choose to take a honeymoon at a later time. Best wishes on your engagement and your own wedding planning.

While I completely understand how you feel there isn't much you can do. The year I got married, my brother, my sister and my brother-in-law also got married. My brother's wedding was in April, mine in July, my brother-in-law's in August and my sister's in December. At the time of my engagement, my brother's wedding and sister's wedding were already planned. My brother-in-law got engaged two days prior. Immediately after getting engaged I said I wanted to get married September of the following year, but apparently so did my sister-in-law so we had to change our plans to accommodate them because we didn't want to get married the exact same month. I would have liked October, but that's when my sister's was planned for. She ended up ending that engagement two weeks after we paid the deposit on our wedding venue so moving our wedding wasn't an option. She later met a new guy and eloped in December. Needless to say others have lives and you can't expect them to put their plans on hold just because you are getting married.

If finances are such a stressful issue, I'd quit the second jobs, cancel the wedding, and elope while attending your friend's wedding in Mexico. Then, plan a renewal, or just a bit Celebration of Marriage bash in a year or two when you can afford it. Weddings should not be so stressful for people! Wait until you can enjoy yourself. Just my opinion. Whatever you decide, good luck to you!

Your feelings are valid. However you get one 24 hour period for your wedding day and he gets one 24 hour period. No one owns the week/month/season/year so that no one else is allowed to get married during that time. Even many guests who are overlapping will not have any issues with them being that close.

You don’t have to go on a honeymoon immediately afterwards. My husband and I went 6 months after our wedding. I know a couple that waited a few years in order to save up.


Best of luck in planning.

I get the frustration, but everyone gets one day. I agree you can wait to have a special time for your honeymoon. It's kind of cool everyone as so many amazing events!

Look just like you planned your own wedding in a time that works for you guys, you have to see it from other people's perspective and they too have picked the time that works for them.

I understand you are filtering a lot of resources into your own wedding and it seems overwhelming and like "how are we supposed to pay to travel to all these weddings when we are still paying off our own extravaganza to the tune of $20,000+."

I really get it. But if you can't afford to go to the other weddings, you can't afford to go. It's plain and simple. Don't go into debt to travel to them and their weddings have nothing to do with yours.

Use the Mexico trip if you are able to have your own little honeymoon, book at an adults-only all-inclusive resort, soak up the sun, and explore.

Also, we are finally going on a honeymoon after 5 years. You can take a honeymoon whenever you want.

My sister and her husband have been married since 2018. Every year since then, they have been to at least 3 weddings. They drive and go and have a great time. They make each destination a trip of itself.

Congratulations on your wedding!