Brother wants to stay at our house while we're honeymooning

I dunno. How responsible is your brother? Is there a guest room in your house? It would be a cold day in hell before I'd let someone stay in my house without me there, but I don't have any siblings so it's different. lol

No on them staying the week before the wedding - and if you're not comfortable with them staying the week after, then I would tell them you can't accommodate them. The last thing you want is to come home to a messy, lived in (not by you) house after traveling. If they are up for camping that's definitely an option. It's tough because it's your brother, but you are all adults, just be honest and see if they can make other arrangements. If you can't afford a vacation, don't take one.

For me it would definitely depend on their responsibility level. I would never let my sister stay at my house while I was gone, but I wouldn't think twice about my brother staying. Their maturity levels are completely different. You need to decide and if you really aren't comfortable, don't feel obligated to let them stay.

Personally my brother is neater than I am, and he sometimes cleans my place when he comes over to visit because it's too messy by his standards. If my brother wanted to stay over at my place for a week while I was gone, I have no problem with that!

I honestly wouldn't have any issue with my brother and his girlfriend staying at my house. My brother and I are very close, so I would trust him with anything.

At the end of the day it's your house so you need to do what you're comfortable doing.

He was super irresponsible as a kid (he's younger than me). He didn't take care of anything that was his, and if it belonged to someone else he took care of it even less. We didn't see each other much after I went off to college, and while I agree he's matured, I really haven't been around him enough to know just how much he's changed/grown. I admitted to mom I had concerns about how he'd take care of house, and she said when she asked my brother about it he was very surprised I'd have such concerns.

He's moved out of mom and dad's place and lives on his own with his girlfriend, so I'm sure that's taught him a lot about life. But even if he has completely matured and is now super responsible, I don't know the girlfriend very well. I've met her a few times, but not enough to know how she'll be. Mom is convinced everything will be fine. She's in Ohio too, so she's spent more time with them and has gotten to know them better.

We normally have someone stay at our house when we go out of town (mainly because we have dogs but also because I hate leaving the house empty). I'd rather have them stay while I'm gone.

It's best if you have a guest room of course though, I've never said it was okay to sleep in my bed O.o but I leave towels and a folder with all the necessary details of living in the house - checking the dehumidifier, close by delivery place phone numbers, neighbors contact information, what I expect to be taken care of when I get home (like, please strip the bed but don't worry about making it, do the dishes... things most people would consider polite guesting I think?)

I guess if you're uncomfortable with it, then say No. For me, my sister and her family would be welcome at my house anytime, so it seems kinda odd to me that you would have an issue with it, but hey I don't know anything about your relationship with your bro. Definitely don't have anyone stay with you the week before though.

I would say no, but because i wouldnt want to have to worry about the house being clean and empty when we get back. but i do have dogs and a sitter would be nice.

Agreed with everyone. It's your house, and you need to feel comfortable. It would suck to come back home, find that a piece of jewellery seems to be missing, accuse your brother (or his gf), then find it in your purse later. Unless you're very close to your brother, I would just say no. It just has so much potential for drama.

If your brother is anything like mine, him and his gf are lazy and just trying to mooch off of your honeymoon. That would bother me. I earned my honeymoon, and my house is not a free hotel. If it's bothering you, go with your gut and say you'd rather not. If they cause damage at your home, or get the police called for disturbance or anything would they own up to it/help you fix it? The day you come back from your honeymoon, what if they're still there? Or what if it's a MESS. I wouldn't want to spend the first few days back in the real world as husband and wife cleaning up after my lazy brother and his sloppy gf. Again, this is if your brother is anything like mine

I wouldn't mind them staying at my house while I'm gone, if they're not super-messy.... I trust my bro and SIL not to have any parties or mess up the house, and to not leave a mess for me to deal with. Having them at my house the week *before* is another thing: you're going to be crazy that week, and having guests might lead to fights, depending on your relationship with him and his GF.

Why don't you suggest they try AirBnB for the week before the wedding? You can get some amazing deals on it, and they get to stay in someone's house, but it's way way cheaper than a hotel! My friends do it all the time, from vermont countryside to NYC Manhattan.

I wouldn't ask them to go camping unless it's their choice - i.e., they raise the option. When you have family get-togethers, and you have formalwear you're going to get ready, and have gifts and such in the car, you don't want to be camping. I think that's not really tenable.

Rebecca, good point about camping. Didn't think about that.

For me, the comfort level would depend on what they're doing. Are they looking for your house to be their love den for a week? Or more a place to sleep at night and have a kitchen while they explore the area? I know I would be fine with my brother and his fiancé staying, but they are also in their mid 30s, responsible, and would just be asking so they could save some $$ while they check out the area together

I'm trying to mull over if this would bother me or not. what would likely bother me is if I came home and....my dishes were all in the wrong spot or something lol. If I had a guest bedroom and I laid out my expectations in advance (no shoes in the house, clean up after yourselves, no parties), I might be okay with it.

Besides, someone on here the other week was saying that she was going out of town and couldn't stop fedex/UPS packages of presents being delivered for her wedding without paying $5 a package. Maybe this would be a good solution to that problem?

I'd be fine with it, they probably wouldn't want to. Maybe less fine if it were my younger brother, but I really don't think he'd want to either.

FH and I are planning to ask my younger brother to stay at our house while we are on honeymoon to take care of our dog and hold down the fort. I wouldn't be super comfortable with my older brother staying at my house for a week without me, though. Unless it was both of them, that'd be okay. But definitely NO house guests the week before the wedding! Unless they want to be your personal assistants/maid/cook, haha!

I think it depends on your relationship. I'd let my brother stay in our apartment if we weren't home, but I'd also set some expectations--feed the cats, do your dishes, clean up after yourself, etc. Not that he doesn't know that, just to make the expectations clear.

My brother and family are messy. i wouldn't want him to but I would probably let him..and tell him the house better be in the same shape as how I left it.