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HayMrsO
Master October 2018

Brother & sil not attending

HayMrsO, on September 10, 2018 at 1:59 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

Just need to vent.

I got a call from my brother last night (my only sibling). When he started the conversation with "I have a problem" I knew that he was trying to bail on our wedding. Apparently he has an annual hunting trip to another state and it is scheduled for the same weekend. I could tell by his tone that he had already chose to go hunting, he just called so that I could tell him it was no big deal and he shouldn't feel bad about not being there. I didn't give him that, I just said that he needed to decide what he thought was the right thing to do. He then asked if FH would be offended. I said he was not in the car with me and I wouldn't speak for him. I ended up stating that we wanted them there, but he needed to make the decision for himself. He's a grown man (42 years old), this should not be something I need to school him on.

They aren't going to show up. I know him. I should have expected it. I don't know why I set myself up for these kinds of let downs. If it was my sister in laws family, he wouldn't miss it. I guess that is why it feels like a slap in the face. We aren't super close, but we are all we have. It's disappointing.

I feel bad complaining. I don't have an awful family. I know some of you deal with so much worse. They just have a way of letting me down, even when I keep my expectations relatively low.

7 Comments

Latest activity by Kristen, on September 10, 2018 at 4:24 PM
  • Amanda
    Dedicated November 2018
    Amanda ·
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    I'm sure that is extremely hard girl but at the end of the day you expressed that you want him there so if he still decides not to go that's on him. He made his bed let him sleep in it. Just be strong and look forward to saying I do to your FH.

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  • Official Mrs.K
    Devoted May 2019
    Official Mrs.K ·
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    Oh man I am so sorry!! My FH is a big hunter and when we were picking a date I said no fall or winter wedding because of that (I knew I could finagle him from hunting one year but didn’t want to worry about him skipping our anniversary every year). I am so sorry that it appears your brother will be choosing the hunt over your wedding. I think you did the honorable thing by being true to your feelings but put the decision on him. Maybe your SIL will talk some sense into him 🤞🏻
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  • H
    Expert July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I would be so so hurt by this. You only get married once and you can hunt later... my only advice is to try not to let it get you down! At the end of the day you will be married to your love!
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  • C
    Super October 2018
    Cassandra ·
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    I would be hurt by this too, if my only sibling did the same thing.

    Some guys just truly love their hunting and wouldn’t change it for the world. I would try not to take offense by that. Maybe offer to get together in the future with him?
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  • MrsD
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    I'm sorry you're dealing with this! I understand how important hunting is (especially to my husband), and he still would miss every hunting trip for an immediate family wedding. I would try not to think about it, you can't change your brother's mind. At least your other family & friends will be there with you.

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  • c
    Super May 2019
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    Good on you for not telling him what he wanted to hear. I would be so upset if my sister bailed for a hunting trip. At least you made it clear to him that he needs to decide what is right for him to do and didn't try and make him not going okay. Sorry you're dealing with this Smiley sad

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  • Kristen
    VIP August 2018
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    I'm so sorry he did that to you : (

    Try not to let it get you down. Some people are just selfish but try to let it go and have an amazing wedding day!

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