Just need to vent.
I got a call from my brother last night (my only sibling). When he started the conversation with "I have a problem" I knew that he was trying to bail on our wedding. Apparently he has an annual hunting trip to another state and it is scheduled for the same weekend. I could tell by his tone that he had already chose to go hunting, he just called so that I could tell him it was no big deal and he shouldn't feel bad about not being there. I didn't give him that, I just said that he needed to decide what he thought was the right thing to do. He then asked if FH would be offended. I said he was not in the car with me and I wouldn't speak for him. I ended up stating that we wanted them there, but he needed to make the decision for himself. He's a grown man (42 years old), this should not be something I need to school him on.
They aren't going to show up. I know him. I should have expected it. I don't know why I set myself up for these kinds of let downs. If it was my sister in laws family, he wouldn't miss it. I guess that is why it feels like a slap in the face. We aren't super close, but we are all we have. It's disappointing.
I feel bad complaining. I don't have an awful family. I know some of you deal with so much worse. They just have a way of letting me down, even when I keep my expectations relatively low.