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Just Said Yes October 2018

Brother new mistress not invited

Michael , on July 31, 2018 at 6:38 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Don't know wat to do STRESSED out my brother got himself involved with another woman month's back after being engaged with another now this girl seems nice in all but it's our day we don't want any drama it's about my bride to be so we've decided not to invite her to wedding cause of friends going of his ex and she'll be centre of attention.
My brother is best man he's given me an ultimatum about he'll leave half way through my wedding if she'll not be there he'll wreck our day even if I tell him to stay the away.
Wat would you do?

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Latest activity by Julie, on August 1, 2018 at 9:59 AM

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Going to the chapel · on July 31, 2018 at 6:46 PM
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If you want your brother there, I'd invite her. If you don't invite him, your relationship with him may be damaged forever. Are you OK with that? He was engaged, not married. She wasn't a mistress. He cheated and that sucks. I'm not clear what you mean in the last sentence of the first paragraph. If you are planning on inviting his ex-fiance, that's not a good plan. Especially if you expect either she or he to create drama.
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Sarah · on July 31, 2018 at 7:03 PM
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It doesn’t sound like she’s new if they’ve been seeing each other for months, or that she’s a mistress if you’re referring to the other girl as his ex. He’s allowed to leave when he wants, and he has a right to want his girlfriend with him at the wedding. How they got together isn’t relevant to you and if his ex’s friends would cause drama that’s on them not on her.
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Just Said Yes October 2018
Michael · on August 1, 2018 at 2:29 AM
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I don't want drama at all not risking it don't want people talking about her rather than the bride his ex will will be at the church with his 2 year old kid
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Emily · on August 1, 2018 at 9:54 AM
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I think this is a situation where you need to hope everyone will act like mature adults. Your brother and his girlfriend are a social unit, and he should be allowed to bring her in my opinion. Even if people talk for a bit, you and your bride will have everyone's attention for the vast majority. Who really cares about an ex and a new girlfriend when there's a beautiful bride to ogle? But just as a backup plan, is there a person you can ask to keep an eye on things just in case any drama does start to unfold?
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Julie · on August 1, 2018 at 9:59 AM
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I agree with the above. While the circumstances may be undesirable, it is extremely rude to tell a member of your bridal party that they cannot bring their significant other.
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