Brother as bridesmaid??

I'm having all three of my brothers as bridesmen. They are perfectly fine with it : )

Sounds good to me!

My brothers were brides men, and my DH had a grooms woman! It wasn't weird, they were all happy with their roles.

The brides men wore the same suits as the groomsmen, just a different colored pocket square. And the grooms woman wore a black dress to match the suits.

I have a guy on my side. I'm calling him a bridesman.

Do it. I have two bridesmen, who will be wearing blue ties and vests to match my dress. (As opposed to the groomsmen, who will be wearing black ties and vests.)

One of my dearest friends is in my bridal party. She isn't comfortable wearing dresses so she will be in a light grey tux. Let your bro be a Bridesman and don't waste another moment stressing over it

I think it's fine.

You seem like you want everything even. Grab another girl and add your brother. 4 on each side.

My FI is having his sister as a groomslady. I was feeling the pressure that it would be expected for me to have her and probably my FI's brother's wife be BMs and I 100% was not having that. I don't dislike them, but I have a lot of friends that I'm close to and want with me not people I've only met 3-4 times. He's who she is close to and supporting so worked perfectly for his sister to be on his side.

Have you picked outfits yet? Because not sure it matters since men wear suits, but I had his sister get the same dress as my BMs but in black to match the GM tuxes. Maybe your brother could wear bow ties and pocket squares that match the BM dresses.

One of my best friends is a guy. And he is excited to be a brides man. And he is totally not gay lol. And my friends and family know and don't care. Do what you want, it's your day. Totally not weird.

Lots of people have bridesmen. And given that he's closer to you than to your FI, it would make sense. However, I'd downplay the "keeping the sides even" part and emphasize the, "I feel close to you" part when talking with him about it.

I like to call him my "bro-maid" he's my best friend from college and I couldn't imagine him not standing on my side! There's absolutely nothing wrong with it!

My brother is my "Man of Honor"! We're BFFs so it only made sense. He's super excited for his unique role! Plus I finally caved after he asked me 1,327,982 times if he could wear a pink suit at the reception, bahaha. Don't worry, he has a nice grey suit for the ceremony and formal pictures.

And for what it's worth (since OP wondered if being gay changed things), he's standing on my side but isn't gay, so I don't think that factors into it at all! Ultimately you just have the most important people in your life stand with you. It doesn't matter what gender they are or what their sexual preference is, it only matters that they are important to you. ETA for clarity.

Gender is a social construct.

Also @emilyg why does his sexuality matter at fucking all?

@PW&G

I pretty much love every post you make. I applaud you hiring women owned vendors and still remember being pissed on your account that a poster said that was discriminatory. I would totally be friends with you in real life. Your wedding will be awesome!

My friend, who is a guy, is my bridesman. I never understood the notion of having people that are the same sex on your side if they don't have a close relationship with you.

@kirackle I wish we could use emojis here because I'd post a bunch of heart eyes

PretttWitty&Gay, it doesn't. I don't care what his preferences are. OP just said she's only know of one bridesman and that he was gay so she didn't know if that changed anything. I wasn't randomly stating that.

Hey @emilyg, thanks for clarifying and sorry for my misplaced aggression. Missed that part of OP's post