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Lauren
Just Said Yes May 2019

Brother as a groomsman?

Lauren , on February 14, 2018 at 2:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

I realize that this decision is ultimately up to my fiance and I and there may be no proper etiquette for this, but interested in your opinions. I want to ask my brother to walk me down the aisle and have a brother/sister dance instead of father/daughter, since my father passed away a few years ago. We have a close relationship and I feel that would be a pretty big role in the wedding, would it be too much if he was also a groomsman?

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Latest activity by muriel, on February 14, 2018 at 9:04 PM
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    January 2018
    Private User ·
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    No....just have him walk you down the aisle and stand as a groomsman and do the first dance. What else more does he need to do?
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    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    I think this is really sweet. I don't see how walking down the isle will add much to his responsibilities. After the walk he will just take his place next to your about to be husband.
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    Beginner June 2018
    Brigette ·
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    My brother will also be walking me down the aisle. But he won't be a groomsmen. My FH has 6 groosman as it is. And they don't know each other as well. But it will keep him involved in the wedding process.
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    Dedicated March 2018
    Julie ·
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    My brother is my Man of Honor (instead of me having a maid of honor). I want him standing up there next to me.
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  • Malei
    Super October 2018
    Malei ·
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    The choosing of the groomsmen should be up to your FH so if he wants your brother to be up there with him, that's his decision. If he doesn't and you still want him up there, you could make him a bridesman. I'm not sure if you're feeling obligated to give him a bigger role or if you're asking if it would be asking too much of him to do the walk/dance/groomsman role. If it's the former, don't feel obligated and if it's the latter then clear it with your FH first and then ask your brother if he'd be comfortable doing all of that.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I don’t think that it’s too much responsibility or involvement, but I also think that your FH’s groomsmen should be his decision to make. If you want your brother in your bridal party, then he can stand on your side
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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
    muriel ·
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    I think your FH should choose his groomsmen without pressure from you. I think there is no higher honor for your brother than escorting you down the aisle.

    If your Dad were still alive, he would escort you, then take a seat beside your Mom. I would have your brother do the same.

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