Broke down at work because of the stress/anxiety

We had a buffet style wedding during the afternoon that was a heavy app reception and had no servers. That said, if you're serving dinner they might be a good idea BUT don't cry over it. It's all going to be ok! If people have to get back up to fill their drinks it'll be fine!

I have a very nosey family so I can relate a bit, I've had a few breakdowns myself. Though I do think having servers is a good idea, it'll help the buffet lines move more smoothly and ensure everyone gets equal portions. ETA: Everyone handles stress differently but I always make sure to have a day once a week to myself to help me relax. Finding a way to get out that energy before it builds that much is important, for me practicing responses helped a lot too.

I'm with ya on all the above and I still have 7 months to go. I'm having a buffet too and no one has even mentioned servers, I think a buffet line is absolutely fine. I'm starting to tell people who try and bring in what they think is "professional wedding knowledge" that FH and I are planning this on our own and we have decided we will not be discussing details with anyone else. Hoping it shuts them up. Keep your head up, you're so close!

Everyone is entitled to a break down moment one point of time or another! Me? I've had years worth at work! It'll get better, get it out of your system and move on. Don't talk wedding details with your family anymore and don't listen to anything they say! I mean, what they said was very rude! Ignore it.

I'm having a buffet style too, I'm going to have two rows of it for a faster serving time. It's your wedding, plan and do what you think is best for YOUR guest.

Sorry to hear you are stressed! If it makes you feel any better, yes, I started crying yesterday at work on the phone with my mom because she was trying to control something about my wedding. I was stressed because FI and I had been planning the ceremony and it has been an ordeal (I think we are finally pretty much done with it and I feel much better today). But anyway, yesterday, I had not gotten a lot of sleep because we had been disagreeing the night before about the ceremony, and then my mom called and said, "You have to start the ceremony ten minutes late in case anyone gets there late" and I completely lost it because my #1 priority is making the ceremony short so we can get our guests to cocktail hour. And I also want pictures in the sunset, which will be 30 minutes after the ceremony start time. You are not alone in at-work meltdowns. Good luck!

Sorry you're so stressed Marie! Just try to minimize talking about the wedding with other people, and remind yourself that people aren't intentionally being rude - everyone just thinks they are a wedding expert And I've heard the amount of unsolicited advice is WAY worse when you are pregnant!

Practice nodding, smiling, and changing the subject! Just remember that as long as you are putting your guests enjoyment first at the reception (food, booze, a seat for every body) you'll be ok! The wedding colors have nothing to do with whether or not a wedding is fun

People keep asking why I'm not getting married in the state we live in and suggesting that we do. I refuse. For one I want a California wedding and for two all my FH family is in Cali and mine down south so regardless people will have to travel. It does get frustrating when people try and tell you what you should do.

I've had my breakdowns at home and at the gym. I know you're probably embarrassed because it happened at work for you, but most people know that wedding planning can be stressful. You're almost there, just hold on for a few more weeks!

I don't know what type of relationship you have with your family, but I'm pretty good at shutting people the fuck down when they give their unsolicited and NEGATIVE opinion. People in my family are very opinionated so I've learned to just throw the shade right back at them and then they know not to try anything with me again. That may not be your personality though so just don't let other people's opinions affect you. As long as you're hosting properly, you can do whatever you want.

Only time I break down is when I think about how much I miss my father. That hurts the most

I started crying at work (I'm a nurse) because a family was screaming at me and normally I let that shit roll off my back but the wedding stress has made me start angry crying recently hahaha.

So no you are not alone on that!

I've definitely cried over things like being overwhelmed by photography prices and feeling panicked about that. And I actually developed hives on my arms because of the stress! We are not getting married where we currently live so I had a huge list of things that HAD to get done when we flew there for Christmas and I guess that was just too much stress. I'm scared it will come back right before the wedding but I'm trying to take precautions now to prevent that.

On the topic of your buffet, that's what we're doing, but the venue doesn't offer it any other way. My family doesn't care, just that they get to eat! lol I'm sorry it's been so stressful for you! Hang in there!

I had my breakdown last week. It took 2 tries for me to be able to clearly express my frustrations and anxiety to my FH. He just stood there for a few minutes with a bewildered look on his face at first. Once I was able to clearly express myself FH jumped into action and we have gotten a ton done the last couple of weeks. I feel a lot better. Everyone goes through it. It WILL get better!

Thank you you all for your support. I will stop talking about my wedding to family and friends. Your comments were all helpful

Remember to take time for self care too, it can be hard to carve out that time especially when you are so busy with finishing up wedding plans. Take a bath, meditate, have a glass of whine and watch a movie whatever is relaxing to you. That stress builds up quickly and you have someway to release it, that sometimes means crying.

Cried from the stress? Yup. Broken out in hives from the stress? Yup. Had heart palpitations from the stress? You betcha lol you're in the finish line, just hang on tight for a little longer!!

I have broken out in hives and I still have 11 months to go! You're almost to the finish line!!!

Take some time for yourself! Take care of yourself!

However, servers would be a good idea. Some people to maintain the buffet (restock, clean up spills) and to clear plates/glasses.

Hi date twin! Definitely take some time to RELAX and not think of the wedding.

In regards to the servers, I think it would be a good idea to have them.

Eff their ideas. Maybe have them start going to your fiance' with their ideas, so then he can filter them for you and do more of the declining. It is YOUR day, not theirs. They WILL get over it. Many people have ideas of THEIR perfect wedding, which this is not. I often ask my MIL if SHE did that for her wedding and that shuts her up.