Brittany Spear Wedding Opinion

I think Brittany is human as all of us are and as such she is entitled to feel nervous if that is a real feeling that emerges as a result of being on the cusps of marrying the love of her life then so be it. Who are we to decide of her feelings are real or not? As far as being super posed? Some people are photogenic and some are not. I think it’s important to focus on our own journey and not that of others.

This post sounds like it has little to do with Brittney but perhaps something to do with your own feelings about your own day that may have not gone well?

She looked happy in her photos. Plus we only see the random photos taken by unprofessional friends and family. I’m sure the photographer pics are much better.
You shouldn’t judge her.

Strong pick me girl vibes here.

Why would we try and form an opinion about somebody we don't know who hasn't asked for our opinion?? Weird, negative vibes if you ask me

It's her wedding and a lot of couples are nervous on their wedding day. Everyone poses for photos.......is she not allowed to have emotions or feel nervous? Do you look at other couples and have the same thoughts?

View Quoted Comment Very negative vibes.

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If you look at her previous post, she was unhappy with her wedding 10 years ago and has had a difficult time with it since.

Britney’s been through hell and back and had every right to do whatever she wants with whoever she wants. I hope her wedding was everything she could’ve wanted and more and from the videos and pictures it looks like she had an amazing time and is happy. Who cares if she looked nervous on her wedding day?! I’m sure I’m going to look nervous no matter how perfect everything is. It seems like you have something against Britney Spears for some reason. Lol

View Quoted Comment Interesting thoughts and comments from everyone. I suppose it does sound negative. I really hope she is happy, and I agree with the commenter that said she has been through hell, especially with her first marriage.
Who are we to judge?
Anyone. Eveyone. The internet. No one wants to be judged, but if we are honest, we all do it. It's how we make sense of the world! My comments were judged and I'm fine with that. I did open the discussion. Even the person who looked deeper to explain my perspective to others made a judgement. It seemed a bit of kindness to defend me a bit (thank you), but I did not "hate" my wedding.Honestly my wedding was wonderful. Every bit as fairy tale as Brittany's, but the industry, hype, and pressure to be perfect or the best day of your life does not mentally help ANY bride, in my humble opinion, and I was no exception. I would handle it differently today. My point was that if someone like Brittany Spears can be panicked over it, then maybe we women should look at the language and approach weddings deeper. It was comforting and actually confirmed some realizations for me. If anything it humanizes the situation for all of us because she is beautiful, poised and financially unlimited. How many of us can say that? Get it? Inner versus outer pursuits? Did anyone think their wedding was absolutely 100 percent perfect just the way it was? After a lot of time thinking about how this affects women, I have noticed that mostly the best outcomes are the ones who speak up with what they want clearly, stay in the moment, and do not expect perfection. My comment was only meant to point out that she faces what many of us face even with many more advantages.

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Sloane, you have a lot of comments about not judging others. That word has become so abused in modern day times. We make judgements every day or all would be chaos. What do you think you are doing when you label my "vibes as negative"? That is a judgement! I'm ok with that, but let's be real. I'm well aware of Brittany's struggles and I hope that she is healing. If putting on the extravaganza worked for her, then more power to her!

My comment was meant to stir deeper introspection about what we all think will make us happy. I don't want to bad all judgement, but maybe snap judgments, yes. The MOTIVE behind them is key. The negative kind you speak of is the kind where people feel the need to tear others down to make themselves feel better. This is, of course, not constructive. If the MOTIVE is to understand that other person, the world, or one's self more, then it is not only ok, but necessary! I will be offering another post to invite opinions. Some may not be kind, but I am always aware of that when I put myself out there.

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Debra:

To be fair you posted a rather expansively long post regarding how unhappy you were with your wedding. So the fact you are now naming your wedding was a magical fairytale. Which is counter to your original post. Beyond that I will not use this space or site to debate you about nuances related to judgement. What I will offer you is this:

Judgement is defined as the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions. I came to sensible conclusion as did others on this thread;

which was objective and based on concrete facts from your previous post that had to do with the discontent about your own wedding. You accuse me of judging you and now where in my post did I do so. Rather your post led with judgement that was subjective to your own experience and void of any facts:

“She looked super posed and she does this for living! The Cinderella carriage brings to mind what we chase and try to recreate. She has no financial limits and no one since the conservatorship ended telling her no on anything. Yet she still seemed intense and nervous in all the pictures. I'm not buying it!”

This site is a space to dialogue about weddings in a positive and productive manner. Your post in general negates the purposes of this site and I will be closing this thread. Good luck to you in all you

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I think I get what you are saying. Sorry if my "negative" vibes were bringing everybody down. I suppose if my wedding hadn't happened yet, I wouldn't want to hear that. The whole comment on Brittany and even myself are this: feelings are not all or none in most cases. You quoting my story against me shows that you think it's all or nothing. Are you really trying to understand the humanity of the points I bring out or are you just trying to be right?

If I had to distill the whole point of even participating in this blog, it's this: for all brides' sake, I wish there was more INSIDE prep going into weddings rather than OUTSIDE prep.

The facts that I read on the blog are:

Cinderella based carriage

She had a panic attack before the event and had to pull herself together.

Instead of reading concern, you read negativity. There is good information out there about how to inwardly prep that is not near as prevalent as the outward prep. My wish for others is to have more access to that information.

As a snapshot of what the wedding culture vibe is, I got my question answered. Unfortunately, you don't seem to understand my point or what I'm trying to do.

Good luck to all the brides out there.... wishing you all happy marriages & a lovely day!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your thoughts. Enjoy your day as well.