Bringing baby to wedding stuff?

Wow that's rude. i wouldn't want to work with anyone that had negative things to say about my son. My little one is almost 3 so he's pretty wild right now. We've had my mom watch him so we can focus but if we had to I would for sure bring him. But really who says that to a baby??

Yeah I’d nope out of that vendor so fast. I don’t have kids but I really get frustrated with peoples horribly negative attitude towards them

We have been bringing our 3 month old to all vendor meetings and tastings bc it would be hard to find childcare every single time. No one has said anything negative to us when we have.

Wow how rude! I don't have children myself but I am a nanny and if I ever had someone talk like that to one of the kids I'd go off on them real quick. Children are children and sometimes they make noise. It's up to the parent or whoever is in charge of them to get them to be stay quiet, not you!

Very rude. Was this a wedding show? Was he a vendor or hosting something?

I have 2 kids, 8 & 1 and I’ve never let that stop me from going wherever I needed to go whether it was wedding related or not. I’ve taken my kids on venue tours and my daughter went with me to a wedding show. Kids with me watching my bridesmaids try on dresses, and with us when my fiancé tried on tuxes. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

My daughter is 8 and very well behaved, might get a random cartwheel out of her if the room is big lol and of course my 1 year old is just like any other 1 year old. That man shouldn’t have said anything to you the first time and would’ve definitely heard my mouth the second time!

As a non parent and someone who doesn't generally like small children - this would make me hire this vendor on the spot.

I don't like going places where children are - even the best behaved children can be fussy, and that's fine. I wouldn't complain at a family style restaurant or other place where kids might normally be welcome(I avoid those places to avoid having to deal with small children), but I do expect that if I'm going to a bridal show (ugh, I hated those in general but different point) that I don't have to deal with that or the stress that they might start crying or moving, or mom will start fidgeting to make sure baby won't cry.

If you were at a tasting or a one on one meeting then I would think this guy was in the wrong, but if I were at the show as another couple I would be annoyed that the information I was trying to hear could get interrupted by a child at any moment and would be loving that this guy called you out for it.

View Quoted Comment So this person should miss out because they have a baby? Parents are people too and deserve to experience bridal shows. Parents know when and where to bring their children and when to take them out of the room if necessary. So let them make those decisions. Children exist whether you like them or not.

That's rude she is a baby sounds like the guy doesn't like kids

I am a mother of 4 and a grandmother of 1 and I dont find this rude at all. What did he says that was negative about ur son? We take my 9yr old to wedding things that r appropriate and shes older and very well behaved. We took her to the food tasting, cake tasting and she went with me to pick up my dress. We do not take her to any expos or meetings we have with vendors. She is very much a part of our wedding but she is still a child. Everything isnt meant for her to attend. And parents also need to consider others that r attending shows, expo, etc. If i didnt bring my kids what makes u think I wanna deal with urs. Be considerate of other couples.

I don't believe at all a parent should miss out on anything wedding because you have kids, It sounds like he takes his job too seriously. hun you take your sweet baby and you plan the wedding you want.

View Quoted Comment Yea I am at a loss too. He wasn't rude or mean? Generally you dont see kids at events like that so maybe he was shocked. He didn't ask you to leave or sit in the back or anything. And it was cute he called out your son by name. I am a mom or 2 toddlers and i hate taking them to events like that. They will be a part of our celebration but doesnt mean they have to be a part of planning. Also, id be glad that nobody in the audience said anything. Some of those people arranged for childcare and paid for it to focus on their wedding planning and here you are w a 9 month old in hand. Im sure majority understands that not all kids r the same and that some are on the quiet side and won't be a nuisance and also that not everyone can get childcare to go to an event like that but still id be a little annoyed if i was there.

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View Quoted Comment I was thinking the same exact thing. Not all wedding planning events are appropriate for kids. I'm not sure what type of show it was but you have to keep in mind there are other people who are paying or otherwise taking time out of our their busy lives to attend and your child could be disruptive to them. I also do not think that what he said was rude at all, he could have made it a much bigger deal or asked you to leave.

That was incredibly rude.

We have two kids, a four year old and a one year old. We brought our baby girl to one vendor meeting when she was a few months old, she fussed a little but the DJ we were meeting with was very professional and kind, and didn't say anything about the fact that we brought her or what sort of noises she was making.

Personally, I like dropping my kids off with my mom when I'm getting wedding stuff done, just so I can focus. It's not so much my baby girl, my four year old son is bouncing off the walls almost all day every day (normal little boy behavior). I don't want to waste the time I have with my vendors running after my son. You obviously have a different situation. I haven't seen any kids at expos or anything, but if you have them you have every right to bring them wherever you want, and no one has any right to say anything to you about it. If they truly want your business they'll be as welcoming to your kids as they are to you.

That person was incredibly unprofessional, especially for making it a point to call you out and make an example out of you in front of everyone. How cruel. I know I don't need to tell you to stay far away from whatever vendor that was. And maybe find a way to contact someone in charge of the show to tell them about your experience.

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The way it sounds though, is that this small child was called out before any noise was made. That really wasn't necessary if that was in fact the case.

1. I don't have kids.

2. I don't like kids or rather I am extremely uncomfortable around children.

3. My cousin (matron of honor) has brought either her 1 year old or her infant or both to everything she has gone to with me (bridal expos & trying on dresses etc.)

4. I have no idea what you mean by shows

5. If this was a potential vendor you should absolutely go elsewhere! What an {WW EXPLITIVE}

6. Like you said, your child is just as much a part of this wedding as you and your SO, this person should be treating your child with the same professional curtisy as they would you or your SO

He sounds super unprofessional. We had a DW but we had a meeting with the venue 2 days beforehand and we brought my 9 year old. He could have stayed with a grama but he was excited to go with us.

While it was rude, and you shouldn’t hire the vendor, I can understand his point.

i see BOTH sides of this:
1) As a parent, my son is now 21yo, I wanted to be included in all things. However, at times that meant that I had to find a sitter. I was a single parent so it wasn’t always easy to do. I knew my son was well behaved, and rarely caused a commotion, others might not want to have him around.

2)At a Bridal Show it is about meeting with vendors and seeing items, getting samples and information and having fun. Sometimes it’s the Bride/Groom & Groom/Bride, or Bride and her Mom, or Bride & Bridesmaid(s).
But, you have to respect that, for the most part, it is an Adults only event. And the ladies & gents there want an adult time.....

while it was rude, I wouldn’t take my lil dude/dudette to a show. It is hot, long, boring, for the Groom! Lol, and maybe having some couples only time would be nice....

Yeah, I can see both sides of this. I am a parent, but am not a huge fan of kids. I understand it may be unavoidable at times, but some things just aren't for kids. If I'm going to a bridal show, I would be annoyed by kids being there. Unless they are older and excited to go, they're just going to end up bored.

I can see bringing a baby to an event where you are meeting 1:1 with a vendor (like a venue tour or a food tasting). If there are any issues, you are the only one impacted. I think a bridal show is different as there are a lot other people there and it really is not an event for children. I'm guessing some of the other people there got babysitters. I actually don't recall seeing any children at the ones I attended. I do think the man should have handled it differently though, rather than pointing you out to everyone.