bring cash for valet parking....

Yes, making your guests pay for mandatory valet parking is just as bad as making them pay for their drinks.

What is the exact situation? A guest driving to a wedding in NYC expects to put their car in a garage (which, incidentally, will cost about 60.00). A guest driving to a valet parking situation in NJ will not be charged, but a couple of bucks for a tip is expected and customary.

Tell me more.

I feel like having to pay for parking and a cash bar are not at all the same thing ... If you're having a cash bar (unfortunate as it is), that's an OPTION. If people don't want to pay for the alcohol they won't but they HAVE to get there somehow so that vallet fee is forced on them. Never in my life have I been to a wedding that I have to pay to park - there's always a parking lot. Also, if you didn't want certain people there you shouldn't have invited them in the first place.

If you don't want them there don't invite them.... I'm still confused, does your venue offer services that's not valet parking? I think you and your FH should cover the parking bill. Reasons why I picked a venue where the parking wasn't an issue

I am getting married in the city and one of the big things to FH and I was not having guests pay for parking especially since we are doing church and reception venue. Even the church we picked we had to pick up the parking for guests. We lucked out that our reception has its own free deck but lots of places downtown of venues within city limits do not. We even fell in love with this theater but it didn't own any parking so we would have to contract with several parking services to rent out lots - too much of a hassle. Can you even negotiate a discounted valet or parking rate?

If the wedding is in a city I would totally expect to pay for parking. I also don't believe I've ever actually paid for valet other than a tip outside of a big city. If the wedding is NOT in a city I would be surprised and annoyed as a guest if paying for parking was mandatory (like no other close by free options or a charge for valet).

Forget parking in NYC. I go to a doctor on the lower east side. For indoor parking, a 2 hour appointment costs me a little over $40. At Woodbury Commons, the outlet mall, I have to pay a few bucks to park in front of Applebee's at the make-shift valet. I'm interested in the cost of this valet parking too.

If Valet parking is not an option, it's part of the wedding expenses.

I have ppl I had to invite per my mother that I really hope decline.......just sayin.

Added: I'm going to back track and agree it has everything to do with where the wedding is located. Some cities the guest is going to have to pay to park as there is no other option.

If it is in the city I think people expect to pay for valet.

Ok, so the wedding will be in a resort on Miami beach. The only options are to Valet or park in their private lot across the street. I believe valet would be $15 and across the street would be $10. We are NOT having a cash bar. I was just curious to see the difference in opinions. Also, unfortunately, there are people that I don't care for attending but for my parents sake, mostly my mom, and my FH, they had to be invited.

Parking is not going to make a person come or not. Pay for the parking.

Even if you did "weed" people out by paying for parking, aren't you still screwed since you paid for their food, drinks, favors, etc.? Sounds like an ineffective and expensive way to get people off your guest list.

As mentioned before, the post last week had a lot of people who weren't upset about paying so this probably isn't an effective filter. That being said, I plan on taking care of it for my guests even though the fee would only be $10 for the night. Do your best to keep your friends and family's money in their pockets and host them.