bridezilla rant dropping out of wedding

I feel like there should be more to this story, but I've refreshed the page twice....

I'm writing this out hold on.

So she is accusing me of trying to ruin her day by asking her to notify the DJ that there can't be any flashing lights or disco ball or strobe lights because my daughter suffers from daily seizures grand mal type that are triggered from flashing lights. My daughter is the flower girl and my cousin has already bitched that I asked her to make my daughters. Dress tea length instead of floor. My daughter suffers from. Vision impairments and constantly trips over her self and really doesn't have balance. My daughter is a shaken baby syndrome survivor and I'm her biggest advocate. Anyways my cousin refused so now my daughter has to wear a floor length dress that has like 20 layers at least of tull. And if there is a problem we can cut it which will make the dress look deflated. She is being a bridezilla and is constantly accusing me of stealing her thunder i thought you get one day not a whole year. So I'm constantly keeping things to myself.

If the safety of your daughter is at risk I would back out no questions asked. If she is unwilling to take the well being of her niece into consideration then it's no ones fault but her's if you step down.

More than enough reason to drop out, IMO.

Omg i got so excited because it was an october wedding. I thought this had to do with melany.

I would suggest that you pull your daughter from the wedding (for her own safety) and find a sitter for that evening. Or that the two of you not attend the wedding at all. But none of this needs be done with hard feelings if the priority here is your daughter's safety and well being.

I wouldn't subject your daughter to this....pull her out of the wedding. As for your part, do what you need to do... but your daughter should not be in a dress that will make her stumble nor around strobe lights!

I remember you from before. Here is my honest advice:

Get the fuck out of that wedding. Your cousin is treating you like shit, but more damning, she's not giving an ounce of concern to your daughter. Shoot her the deuces and keep it moving.

I would at least pull my daughter out.

I agree with everyone else... Mostly. You're daughters safety comes first and for her to not respect that is just rude. I'd pull your daughter and yourself from the wedding. She can't respect your daughters safety and she can't respect you. Cousin or not, don't let anyone walk all over you or they'll just continue doing it.

Wow, I would probably pull myself and my daughter out of this wedding. I could see the bride (maybe) misunderstanding what you meant by sending dresses (she may have thought you wanted to wear the dress you sent instead of showing dresses you are interested in for your own wedding). But your daughter's safety should be your first concern. If my flower girl had vision or stability issues and her mom asked me to shorten the length I would have said of course (then again I didn't pick my flower girl's dress, I trusted her mom to decide what looked best because mom knows the child better than anyone else). Asking that the DJ not use strobe lights, flashing lights or disco balls is also not a big deal (maybe you could compromise and be there for the earlier part of the reception if the bride really needs those things at some point) but the fact that she went to your mother instead of talking to you directly leads me to believe that she doesn't want to compromise, she just wants to be told she is right and nothing else. I'm sorry you are in this situation but I think you should stick to your guns on this!

Oh did I mention my fiance who I've been with for 4 years engaged for 3 years is not invited to the rehearsal. Dinner but my sisters husband and my cousins friends fiance is.

Oh did I mention my fiance who I've been with for 4 years engaged for 3 years is not invited to the rehearsal. Dinner but my sisters husband and my cousins friends fiance is.

Wait... so why are you and your daughter still in this wedding?

Like the other ladies have said you should back out of this wedding or at least pull your daughter out her safety is way more important than her being a flower girl in your cousins wedding.

At the very least if she cannot accommodate the concerns regarding your daughter then I would tell her that your daughter simply cannot be in the wedding or attend. It is for her own safety! Not because you are trying to "ruin" her big day. If she is going to keep being a jerk then either of you should even go. I wouldn't tolerate that crap.

She's not just being a bridezilla, she is endangering the health of your child.

Hold your head up hand and walk yourself/your daughter straight out this wedding. No "ifs", no "buts" and don't let her try and make you feel bad.