Bridezilla or Momzilla? Help!

I wouldn't bother because it's such a tiny moment and most people will not be there at the *exact* moment she arrives to see. Most people head directly inside. Maybe the guests arriving right before and after will see, but honestly just think it's because she's direct family to the couple.

I don't think it'll make waves since she'll get out and the limo will drive away pretty quickly.

Why does it matter how she shows up to the venue? And who she shows up with? As long as shes on time, that's all that really matters. This is not a hill to die on.

View Quoted Comment I agree wit this.

I agree. I wouldn't worry about it. Most people honestly won't be there at the exact moment.

I understand where your coming from, however I agree with the other comments. That most people wont even notice, there are there for your day to celebrate your wedding and your union

View Quoted Comment To me it matters. I’m not saying my concerns are valid (hence the reason why I’m reaching out for opinions) but I certainly can’t disregard how it makes me feel uncomfortable. Especially as a guest, I wouldn’t consider arriving to a wedding in a limo.

View Quoted Comment That is true. Thank you for that point of view!

View Quoted Comment But why does it matter? Why does it bother you? Are you worried about her taking attention? No one is going to think shes the bride...

View Quoted Comment Thank you!

I'm not truly understanding why this would bug you. Will you be serving booze at your wedding? Isn't it the responsible thing for her not to drive if there is going to be drinks involved? It seems like you need to fix your relationship with her because this post cannot honestly be about how someone is getting to your wedding.

View Quoted Comment I don’t assume people will think she’s the bride by any means. Part of it is the principle. For me, it matters if the bridal party, mother’s, fathers, flower girls (etc), will be at the venue and she’s arriving separately in a limo. Although there may be bigger fish to fry, I believe it’s in poor taste.

Sounds like she's excited and looking forward to your wedding. I don't see any problem with her wanting to celebrate and be a little extravagant, it's a big occasion and worth celebrating. This has literally no effect on you as you won't even see it, nor will most other guests

View Quoted Comment That’s what the post is pretty much about! I’m not sure how else to explain it.

My FH’s family will be taking a limo to our wedding and no one else is. Honestly there isn’t a lot of options for a large group of people who want to travel together so I don’t see it as being malicious. It’s definitely not worth the energy and I doubt anyone will even notice how they arrive.

I think she’s being strange - if there was a valid need for a DD or whatever, a Uber or taxi could have sufficed.

This said, I’m not sure I would waste any time or effort in telling her this. Just let her be randomly awkward and weird, I’d say. Ultimately this limo thing isn’t going to impact your wedding in any event, so...

I think this isn't a big deal. Hiring a limo costs a lot of money and they usually have a minimum number of hours so I would be surprised if she actually goes through with it. But even if she does this shouldn't bother you. I couldn't care less how guests got to my wedding. If they wanted to go all out and get a limo for my wedding I might actually be flattered that they thought my wedding was classy and high end enough to go to all the trouble.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! That’s a great perspective.

It’s an odd choice for sure but I don’t think you have any ground to “put your foot down” on this. How someone gets to your wedding is not your business. She’s the one missing out if she chooses to ostracize herself from the other parents and wedding party.

This truly would not bother me - it will be VERY obvious who the bride/groom are at your wedding - it really isn't possible for people take any of your "sun shine". If anything, I think it's sort of fun that she views this as such an exciting, classy event that she and her friends want to spring for a limo. I say it's a long drive, let them have their fun.

As an FYI - my MIL actually asked my DH to drive her to / from places on our wedding day (to the pre-wedding photos, then to the ceremony/reception and home at the end of the night). Not possible and I said no but I would have LOVED it if she could have just found her own transportation (of any kind) versus asking for something that just isn't practical

I would just let her do it. If she's paying for it, it doesn't really change anything about the wedding so I wouldn't let it bother you. No one will notice. It seems odd she isn't offering to pay for a limo for you guys instead, but whatever!