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Bridezilla or a reasonable bride?

Kayla, on May 16, 2022 at 3:05 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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Hello! I’m due in July and I have my sisters wedding June 11th (all my babies did try to come early around 33/34 weeks. I also had a c-section in may 2021 with my twins.) my C-section is scheduled for 38 weeks her worry is I’ll go in labor early and if I do she said under no circumstances am I to say a word just leave she also asked me not to post on fb or even text my parents until the next day which I told her I don’t plan on announcing at her wedding then I’m in labor or going to the hospital do the baby but I do have to tell our parents because they’re watching our kids and she’s not OK with that. but if I’m leaving my own sisters wedding that I’m a MOH in people will know anyway. She said even if they ask if I’m okay to say yes and walk away, She even said also she would rather me say If some one asks if I’m in labor that I say no I’m going to go f my husband in a closet. I know it’s her special day and I would never want to ruin it but I feel she’s gone over board. She’s has now asked me not to wear my nose ring in nose piercings close really fas. It was a fight and said if I won’t take it out for the wedding to only wear a stud… I’m stressed out due to how she’s been acting. About it. I have become stressed due to other things/ demands she has has for the wedding/bachelorette party. Am I not being fair? These are things I would never expect from somebody in my wedding when I got married.

Her wedding was planned before I found out I was pregnant I had not planned to be pregnant at her wedding accidents happen.

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Latest activity by Morgan, on May 19, 2022 at 9:12 AM

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Sarah · on May 16, 2022 at 3:38 PM
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What does she expect you to do with your kids if you have to leave? Take them with you? I don't see why you can't tell your parents quietly so they know that the kids are staying with them. I think that part is unreasonable and if I were you I'd be tempted to tell her that the safest choice for you then is to stay home and not attend the wedding because you can't predict if/when you'll go into labor.
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Paige · on May 16, 2022 at 4:15 PM
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Yikes she definitely stepped over a line. I could get past the thing about asking you to wear a stud vs a nose ring, but asking you not to tell your parents if you go into labor when they're watching your kids isn't ok. Are your parents the types to make a big announcement and overshadow your sister's day if you told them quietly? Maybe talk to them ahead of time and say that if something does happen that you'll text them and ask them to keep it to themselves until after the reception is over. I doubt anyone would think twice about you leaving early if you're that far along in your pregnancy.
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Jacks · on May 16, 2022 at 4:17 PM
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Oh wow, no. None of that. She doesn't get to dictate how to manage the time around giving birth, and she doesn't get to dictate your personal appearance. All the best with the pregnancy!
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Lady · on May 16, 2022 at 4:35 PM
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Hahahahahahahaha. Your sister is absolutely ridiculous. I wouldn't do anything in this situation other than smile and nod and say "ok" "sure" "sounds good". And then do what you need to do. If her wedding day can be ruined by her sister going into labor and stepping out to go to the hospital, she's not getting married for the right reasons.
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Taylor · on May 16, 2022 at 10:55 PM
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That’s insane. She doesn’t get to decide how you deal with things when you go into labor and even though the nose ring is much less serious in comparison, she doesn’t get to decide your appearance either. My body rejects all my piercings except my ears so I don’t take body jewelry out ever and get it. Her behavior is all wrong
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Michelle · on May 16, 2022 at 11:18 PM
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I would immediately step down from being maid of honor. She is grossly overstepping in both situations and is not showing any empathy or respect towards you. She has no right whatsoever to dictate what you and parents discuss for the safety and well-being of your children. Also it is not her place to control and alter your physical appearance. Best wishes for your pregnancy and hopefully the stress doesn’t hinder your baby’s health or yours.
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Lucy · on May 17, 2022 at 2:02 AM
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I second Michelle's reply!
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Willow · on May 17, 2022 at 8:57 PM
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If my sister gave me that kind of attitude, I probably wouldn't attend the wedding. If I were the groom, I'd call off the wedding. You're giving birth when the baby is ready. Life happens. Your parents need to know when you're leaving so they can watch the kids. This isn't something you should have to keep secret. She is acting like you plan to give to give birth at the altar during her vows.
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Morgan · on May 19, 2022 at 9:12 AM
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I would step down from the wedding because your sister doesn't deserve you standing by her side with how she's acting. I wouldn't even go to the wedding honestly and then your sister wouldn't have to worry about anything, and I would make sure to tell everyone exactly why I wasn't going. And the fact that your babies come around 32/33 weeks and your sister doesn't care about that and their heath and is more worried about herself would make me at least not speak with her for a long time if I ever spoke with her again. Your plans for when you deliver your baby have nothing to do with your sister or her wedding and she needs to get over herself. I'm actually really angry and hurt for you.
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