"Bridezilla" An un-needed label that only causes drama.

Bridezilla has many meanings, and I personally don't think yours is totally accurate. A single action can be considered bridezilla-ish, and I will admit to having my moments.

However, if someone is calling you (a generic you, not YOU specific) a bridezilla- then ask yourself why. If they are just throwing temper tantrums because you aren't doing what they want- then it's not a valid terminology. However, sometimes brides go overboard, think the day is all about them- sorry, it't not- and that everyone should just do what they ask. They expect too much from their bridal party, their parents or even their vendors.

It was created for a reason. If we never gave our friends/family a reason to use it they wouldn't.

We use it jokingly actually lol. I never take that term correctly. For one I think of a big fire breathing dinosaur in a wedding dress stomping her feet around tearing down buildings to eat people lol. I never take what people say to heart. You can't because if you do it will affect you and who you are as a person. I have been called WAY worse then that so that term I completely ignore or I say "Don't make me go all Bridezilla on ya" I have sacrificed to much in my life to feel like I am a brat. Not to mention that we are paying for the wedding all on our own. So what FH and I want is final and if no one likes it oh well past the collection plate and you can pop in your donation to voice an opinion. Till then I guess we Bride and Groomzilla..

Mr and Mrs Zilla

I understand that it was created for a reason, I just think that people use it automatically whenever the bride does something they don't like.

I got called a Bridezilla because I wanted to wear blue shoes. I mean, who cares what colour my shoes are? Or another girl who was called a bridezilla because she wanted to pick her BM's dresses?

I fully agree that if I actually act like a Bridezilla I should be called on it, I just think there should be a time to use it and that people should think about whether or not it's really deserved before they throw it around in a negative way. I am all for using it comically like Jess does.

Wear blue shoes. That is someone being stupid...

But there are many women who fit that term well! There have been/are a few on this site that it applies to.

Can you honestly say you've never been called a derogatory word for no reason? I got called a B**** many times because some guy approached me in a bar and some other girl wanted him to hit on her. What did I do wrong?

I've been called much worse, much more often. If you want to call me bridezilla- go for it. It doesn't phase me. I take in context the source of the comments. Some sources aren't worth worrying over. Others, I take a step back and try to be objective.

It can be mean, and I know what you are trying to say. People feel they have a right to call you that even when you are planning for something specifically and they do not like it. Its happened to me too, but I always tell people that they only way I'll go bridezilla is if someone starts a fight or something. Our families do not always get a long!

I do know what you are saying, sometimes it's used even when brides just have an opinion or know what they want, not to mention dehumanizing to women..I tink often it's said in jest though too. I am not sure if you are referring to other girls on the forum unjustly using the word; I personally have not seen much of that going on here, it's more we hear of outside people calling WW brides bridezillas. Then again I don't read as many posts these days as I did before. I think if it's used in fun and both parties understand that, heck even brides call themselves bridezillas! doesn't necessarily lead to drama, but ya in situations where it could lead to drama it really shouldn't be used, it's very judgment laden like the term "tacky".

If a person is acting disrespectfully, selfishly, and obnoxiously, we should call it for what it is. Being a bride-to-be is no excuse for being rude and disrespectful. I agree with that sentiment.

I also agree that the term Bridezilla can be a light hearted reference to a bride stressing over wedding issues.