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Just Said Yes September 2020

Bridesmen Question

Michelle, on March 20, 2020 at 12:52 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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Hello, I am getting married 9/5/20 (God willing with all this COVID business). It is a lesbian wedding and each bride has 1 male attendant and 1 female attendant. Both males are gay men. We have only 2 rooms and a shared bathroom to get ready in. The brides are not seeing each other before the reveal. How do we navigate the mixed sexes? Does my fiancee have her attendants and I have mine or does she have both guys as she is wearing a suit similar to theirs. I want pictures of my getting into my gown of course, but I am not concerned about modesty issues, but they may. Her bestman is a male and my maid of honor is a girl, btw. Has anyone else navigated the mixed attendants before?

Thank in advance for you help,

Michelle

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Latest activity by Soon2BSmith, on March 20, 2020 at 4:05 PM

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Hannah · on March 20, 2020 at 12:55 PM
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I feel like there isn't any specific right answer. It all comes down to what you're all comfortable with. I would talk to your fiance and your bridal party.
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Caytlyn · on March 20, 2020 at 1:11 PM
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Why can’t they just step out of the room when you get dressed? We had mixed genders on both sides and this was never even a concern. No one watched me get dressed, man or woman.
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Ally · on March 20, 2020 at 1:13 PM
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I agree with the above. I would talk to everyone and see what they’re comfortable with. They can always step out of the room while you put your gown on if they’re uncomfortable.
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Day · on March 20, 2020 at 1:26 PM
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Our wedding isn’t for a while 6/12/21, but we are also a lesbian couple with a maid of honor and best man each. We basically each picked a couple whose marriage is inspiring to us. They are both straight couples, so we will probably dress with our maid of honor but spend time with both once ready. Though knowing our families, we will probably have more people in our rooms helping us get ready... more specifically our grandmas who will be walking us down the aisle back to back.
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VIP October 2020
Samantha · on March 20, 2020 at 2:33 PM
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Absolutely talk to your attendants and see what they prefer.
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Soon2BSmith · on March 20, 2020 at 4:05 PM
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You should just ask everyone what they are honestly comfortable with? Are your females bridesmaid ok with getting ready in the presence of men (gay or not)? Are the men comfortable with getting dress in the presence of other women? If they are not, then all the men will get dress together, step out and let your fiance get dressed. Then the women get dressed with you, possibly.
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