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Just Said Yes October 2019

Bridesmatron???

Angela , on April 25, 2018 at 7:54 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 26

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So I asked my sister in law if she would be a bridesmaid and she got offended because as a married lady I should have asked her to be a bridesmatron and not a bridesmaid. After several “I didn’t know that was a thing” comment she flat out said she cannot be in my wedding if she isn’t titled a bridesmatron as opposed to a bridesmaid. All the other girls in my wedding party who have accept the invitation are all married and didn’t seem to care that I asked them to be a bridesmaid. This has caused quite a rift between me and sister in law. Is bridesmatron really a thing or is my sister in law just being a diva and what should I do in this situation?

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Kelli · on April 25, 2018 at 7:57 PM
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She’s bri g a diva. I’ve never heard of that.
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Becca · on April 25, 2018 at 8:01 PM
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Lol! A “bridesmatron!” I keep reading it as brides-ma-tron like it’s a robot bridesmaid. She’s a diva and wants the attention.
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Mim · on April 25, 2018 at 8:06 PM
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Good grief, is she generally needlessly dramatic? If you truly want her to be in your bridal party either call the married women bridesmatrons (I'm rolling my eyes) or just refer to everyone on both sides as the wedding party. If you don't really care if she's a part of the party then just call her bluff
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Going to the chapel · on April 25, 2018 at 8:10 PM
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People get caught up in the silliest stuff. Just call all of them bridal attendants.
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Kristin · on April 25, 2018 at 8:15 PM
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She's being a diva. Technically my maid of honor is a matron but neither of us refer to her as that since we feel like it makes her sound old. She's 45 and I'm 34 and a couple idiots at a bridal expo called her my mom, so maybe we're extra age sensitive lol. She defensively told them that she has a five year old and I ripped up their business cards once I got home.
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Rachelle · on April 25, 2018 at 8:21 PM
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DIVA!!! *snaps fingers from side to side

i have never heard of bridesmatron. Matron of honor, sure, but not the other. If she is still being that way after you apologizing and explaining you didn’t know/didn’t mean offense, I would ask her if that is really going to keep her from being a part of your big day. Either refer to her as your bridal attendant, or cut your losses.

I’m sorry she freaked out like that; navigating the family dynamics during a wedding is challenging! Good luck! ❤️
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Jables · on April 25, 2018 at 8:44 PM
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Hahaha that's how I keep reading it too!
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Stephanie · on April 25, 2018 at 9:19 PM
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She has to be joking... This is definitely not a thing. Absolutely a diva.
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Futuremrsgrill · on April 25, 2018 at 9:24 PM
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That’s how I kept reading it too lol, I was thinking like transformers (megatron).

I could see why there might be that considering the maid the maid of honor/matron of honor, but I don’t think anyone ever uses it. Like Bridesmaid is printed on everything if you are getting shirts or little knickknacks, and I’ve never seen bridesmatron on anything 😂
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Joanna · on April 25, 2018 at 9:32 PM
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Definite diva. Thank her, though, for showing you what she'd be like to deal with in the bridal party and then tell her "Nevermind." You get bonus points if you can do it in Emily Latella's voice.
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Tia'nna · on April 25, 2018 at 10:04 PM
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I've heard of a Martron of honor but never a bridesmatron.... It's sounds pretty goofy. I would just keep the offer open to her , but only as a bridesmaid.
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Amanda · on April 25, 2018 at 10:12 PM
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When I asked my sister to be my maid of honor she jokingly asked why not matron (she's married) and I just said it made her sound old. I've never heard of bridesmatron though. It sounds weird.
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muriel · on April 25, 2018 at 10:15 PM
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I wouldn't push her too hard to change her mind. If she is that difficult now, I can't imagine dealing with her choosing a dress etc.
Bridesmatron actually is a thing, but it is a dated term, rarely used nowadays.
From the Urban Dictionary:
bridesmatron: a bridesmaid who had the balls to go and get married before the bride and is now old and fat
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Shelby · on April 25, 2018 at 10:27 PM
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This sounds way over dramatic and I feel like if she does decide to take part, she'd only cause unnecessary issue for you. If she gets upset over something like this and throws a fit, imagine what it would be like later on when you make a wedding decision that involves her that she doesn't agree with.
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Shelby · on April 25, 2018 at 10:28 PM
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Idk why I find this so funny 😂😂😂
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LoveAlwaysWin · on April 25, 2018 at 11:07 PM
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I never heard of that it sounds made up.
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PalmTrees · on April 26, 2018 at 12:48 AM
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Super dramatic, but I don’t think it affects much for you as I assume you’re not tattooing “bridesmaid” on them all or anything lol.
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Linda · on April 26, 2018 at 12:54 AM
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I’ve heard of matron if honor (and mine is) but even my married bridesmaid is a bridesmaid
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NinjaBride · on April 26, 2018 at 1:55 AM
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Haha. Love the urban dictionary definition.
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Mim · on April 26, 2018 at 5:56 AM
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I'm thinking a mug with that definition would be a perfect bridesmatron gift
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