BridesMAN

Pinterest has cute ideas for asking or you can always go for the classic face to face or a phone call since they are far away.

Send him a Man Crate.

Think about what he does like and send him that.

Just call and ask him?

I avoided this struggle by only having a MOH. I grew up with mostly guy friends, and most of my close friends, the majority of the small handful I consider family, are guys. FH and I talked about whether we were going to mix genders in our respective wedding parties, but decided that since the vast majority of his family was not going to be able to attend the wedding (and he would have had mostly his brothers as groomsmen) that we'd keep our parties to just the MOH and BM.

I'm old fashioned and like a phone call or Skype as the next best thing for far away folks. I didn't do anything fancy for my best friend in Germany when I asked her, sometimes just the ask itself can mean more than any gimmicks.

I call him my bridesdude, but I did the same thing I did with my bridesmaids and bought a card with a handwritten note. He lives far away but I knew I was going to be home for Christmas and wanted to give it to him in person. We met at the bar with a group of people, he opened it, said yes, and I think we did a shot of Mezcal together. The ask doesn't need to be complicated, that's something Pinterest inspired that's really not necessary.

I just called all of mine (including my bridesman brother) and asked them personally.

I dont understand why people feel like calling or asking in person is a no go anymore.

But also, i have 3 men in my bridal party, and 1 woman. FW has 5 women. We're just calling everyone members of the bridal party. gender neutrality whatuppppp

I asked my Bridesmaids and Bridesman by getting them nice cards.

If I didn't have a business making custom cookies, I would just call/text to ask my brother and brother in law to stand with me on my wedding day, buuuut since I do, I'm making them obnoxious cookies saying "Will you be my Man of Honor/Bridesman?" and giving those to them. They are going to seriously eye-roll at me, but whatever, they're also going to fucking eat them.

My best friend is my brides man. We have talked about being in each others weddings for years. I texted him "so will you be my bridesman?" And he said "yes i will stand by you at your wedding." I would have asked him in person but he was on vacation.0

Man crates are awesome!

I literally went up to them and asked if they'd be my attendants. (PW&G, there's a nice gender-neutral term for you!)

They were honored and verklempt.

(And then the one got even MORE verklempt when his bf pushed home that they'd be MY attendants -- he immediately thought I was asking them to be a groomsmen. Because gender roles are real, y'all.)

I Skyped with my OOT bridesmaid and I met up with my bridesman. I wrote a note and gave him a bag with snacks he likes. Food is always a safe bet.

I just gave them cards. Super easy. I could have just called them or asked them in person, but went the card route.