BridesMAN getting ready in the Bridal suite

Discreetly ask your bridesmaids how they feel about this. Do they know him? I would feel uncomfortable if I were expected to go from silk robe to dress in a coed setting. But if there's a bathroom I can use, that would be a compromise. He could also come in dressed towards the end for a drink, to hang out, group hug, whatever.

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Flannel what? Guys wear plaid too Plaid shirts, plaid bathrobes... it seems like you could really easily include him with that!

Personally I wouldn't be worried about the femininity, I'd just feel bad asking him to show up at the same time as all the bridesmaids if he doesn't have to get hair or makeup done! I'd just let him know what time everything will be getting started, and the latest he needs to be there by for pictures and things!

I dealt with this exact scenario and it worked out great! My man of honor is gay and he did hang out with us in the bridal suite while the girls did hair and makeup. I bought everyone button up shirts and i asked him if he would like one as well (and he did!) everyone knew each other and there was a bathroom for changing prior to pictures. I chose to wear a slip to put on my wedding dress as well. I would ask your BMs and your guy how they feel about this and go from there! I asked my moh if he would prefer to hang with the groomsmen instead, so that may be another option

My suggestion would be for you tell him to arrive right before you start taking pictures. The girls will be able to change, etc before he gets there

I've thought about this too, my man of honor knows everyone in the bridal party though so the girls would be comfortable with him being there while in robes. I think you should ask him what he'd like, maybe he wont want to be there the whole time you guys get ready?

Honestly everyone in my bridal party has been friends for 10+ years. The only one that doesn't know him that well is my fiancés sister but she's so laid back and easy going that I doubt she would care. I was thinking about doing button down flannel shirts but the writing is all glittery on the back but I guess I could just have plain writing on the back for him. There are a few rooms in the bridal suite so privacy wouldn't be an issue. Asking him is a great idea. I don't know why I didn't think of that haha I guess I just thought everything was meant to be a surprise. Very new to all of this!

Since he's gay, I think it's fine to have him there.