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Bridesman and Groomsmaids ??

Haley , on July 5, 2018 at 8:16 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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My fiancé and I have been together for almost 9 years so we share most of the same friends. Most of those friends are guys. So he is getting the majority of our guy friends to be his groomsman. I am having one be my bridesman (is that even the word for it??). So to even it out he’s having one of his female cousins be a groomsmaid. I was thinking that my bridesman would do everything with the guys (bachelor party) and just stand with me on the big day. So I would then need to include his cousin in all things bride/bachelorette (which is fine!). How are y’all handling this?

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Latest activity by Corinne, on July 12, 2018 at 2:27 PM

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Corinne · on July 5, 2018 at 8:24 PM
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I have two bridesmen on my side! And my fiance does not have any groomsmaids so my bridesmen are paired with groomsmen. So I cant add anything on including a groomsmaid in bachelorette festivities. But I sure am getting some heat for having 2 bridesmen and no ladies to pair them with.
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Haley · on July 5, 2018 at 8:29 PM
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Are they doing bachelorette stuff with you or bachelor stuff with him before the wedding ?
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on July 5, 2018 at 8:39 PM
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Mixed bridal parties are great. Your bachelor and bachelorette parties don't have to be gender specific either. If you want your male friend at your bachelorette and he's comfortable attending, invite him. If he wants his female cousin as his bachelor and she's comfortable attending, invite her. If neither of them are comfortable with those options, invite her to your bachelorette and visa versa. Mixing the bridal parties is a fairly new thing, so there's no rules on how to handle things like this. Just go with what makes everyone happy.
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Gen · on July 5, 2018 at 8:48 PM
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I would do exactly what you are doing!
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Master September 2019
Colleen · on July 6, 2018 at 12:58 AM
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We did not worry about even parties. He is having two girls I am having 4 girls.
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Sara · on July 6, 2018 at 9:46 AM
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We've been together for 13 years and have a really small wedding party, so the thought of a bachelor or bachelorette party seems a bit odd to us at this point. IF we do anything like that, it will be co-ed and more of a nice dinner and a couple of drinks afterwards.
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Corinne · on July 12, 2018 at 2:27 PM
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My bridesmen are doing things with the guys since we are all friends. Our colors are blue and silver, so the groomsmen are wearing silver vests and my maid of honor is wearing a blue dress and my bridesmen are wearing blue vests to indicate they are on my side. We aren't having a bachelor or bachelorette party either because we are all friends with each other we just plan to have a big bonfire with family and friends.
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