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Bridesmaids

Nancy, on July 30, 2019 at 12:38 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 12
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Good morning! So i'm getting married May 2, 2020! I'm literally counting down the days. I'm in a bit of a pickle and could use some advice... I have always said that I wanted a small bridal party. I don't have any sisters but I do have 2 sister-in laws. So I made the decision of having my two sister-in laws and one of my cousins be in my wedding. I've chosen one of my sister-in laws to be my Matron of honor because i'm closer to her and she always goes above and beyond for me. But now I feel guilty not choosing my other sister in law as a Matron of Honor. I have her as just a bridesmaid along with my cousin. (keep in my mind my other sister in law doesn't really get to involved like the other one who is literally already planning my bachelorette party and all). Any tips? Should I just not worry about feelings getting hurt? I feel like if I make her a Matron of Honor then my other sister in law is going to get her feelings hurt and will pretty much still end up doing things on her own! Ugh!!! Help! Lol

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Latest activity by Nancy, on July 30, 2019 at 2:29 PM
  • Jessica
    VIP June 2020
    Jessica ·
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    Just leave her as a bridesmaid. If she didn't like the face that she was a bridesmaid she could have said no when you asked. Don't stress yourself out over it.

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  • N
    Beginner May 2020
    Nancy ·
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    I technically haven't told her she's just a bridesmaid lol she's just aware that she will be involved. I wanted to do one of the proposal boxes. But honestly i think she might be relieved that she's only a bridesmaid... in her mind it might be less for her to do lol. Don't get me wrong I love her it's just I don't want any feelings hurt. But I can't please everyone right?

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    You're correct, you can't please everyone. That's definitely going to burn you out in this wedding planning process!

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Being a bridesmaid is an honor. You don't have to be a maid or matron of honor to feel special. If she's unhappy with it, she doesn't have to accept your invitation to be in the bridal party.

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    Melle ·
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    Yea they're all titles too at the end of the day so everyone is just here to support you and be there for you
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  • Sara
    Devoted April 2020
    Sara ·
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    Don’t stress yourself out over it, I understand where you’re coming from because I’m always worried about hurting feelings. She May realize that you have a closer relationship with the other sister and if she doesn’t get too involved it might be a relief she doesn’t take on the role of maid of honor. I have two sisters and chose one to be my maid of honor and the other to be my bridesmaid and she was completely fine with it.
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  • Sara
    Devoted April 2020
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    And yes I agree both are an honor
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  • N
    Beginner May 2020
    Nancy ·
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    Oh it already has! When I first got engaged I also wanted to include my fiance's three sisters.... let me tell you I cut them out QUICK! they were making me want to elope lol

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  • N
    Beginner May 2020
    Nancy ·
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    You are so right!!!

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  • N
    Beginner May 2020
    Nancy ·
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    I feel the same! I don't love my bridesmaids any less than I love my matron of honor! You are right!

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  • N
    Beginner May 2020
    Nancy ·
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    Thank you that makes me feel a lot better. I honestly think she'll be ok with it. Its just my conscious lol

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    Beginner May 2020
    Nancy ·
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    Thanks everyone for the responses!!!Smiley heart

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