Bridesmaids?

Hey Katlyn! I was on the same boat! My fiancé had groomsmen and best man lined up But unfortunately I have no friends except my brothers girlfriends and my sister! Sadly they are not reliable! We sat down and discussed and be mindful it’s u and ur fiancé’s day no one else! We Decided it’s best not to have any bridesmaids or groomsmen and best man. I’m way happier now with that decision because I don’t have the energy to deal with checking up on them to make sure they are still my bridesmaids LOL. It will just be me and him our guest of 35 at the Bahamas!

Are there any sisters on either side? Cousins? Nieces? Close coworker?


I would say ask your fiancé if he would mind keeping his side small and see if you can find a girl or 2 you are comfortable with. It doesn’t not have to be even at all. It is really just about you 2. If you lived close I would volunteer! Haha I feel like I’m a professional bridesmaid by now

I’ve honestly seen people just decide not to have a wedding party for that reason. That doesn’t mean your husband can’t still take photos with his friends though

I had the same problem. My best friend will be my maid of honor. My grandma is my flower girl but will stand up with me like a bridesmaid. Then I asked my brother (I was brainstorming with my mom what to do and he volunteered) and my male cousin who is like a brother to me. It really mattered to my FH that we have equal sides and I know he really wanted his friends to be included so I didn't want to just get rid of the bridal party. I ended up thinking about the people who supported me in life but wouldn't necessarily be traditionally considered for the role.

Is there any family on your side or on his that you would want to participate? Or, you aren't limited to females...many brides have "bridesmen" so if you have close male friends, don't forget to consider them as well! If there's no one you feel comfortable with, then just don't have any. Definitely don't include people just to "fill slots" or you will likely regret it later on.

I would try to talk to your FH and see if he would agree with having a very tiny wedding party, if not remove the wedding party altogether. He can always still ask his close friends to come to the bachelor party, and this way they wouldn’t have any other finances or responsibilities to worry about

Do not add relatives or female in laws just to fill a role. There are many threads of brides adding inlaws (and others) they are not close to and major drama resulting. It is perfectly ok to not have bridesmaids. As long as there are 1-2 legal adults (depending on your state laws) available to sign the marriage certificate, ylu are covered.

Do you HAVE to have bridesmaids and groomsmen? You could always opt out.

View Quoted Comment This is sage advise- don't fill spots (even with family members!!) Just to fill them. It's a lot less stress and hassle without!

Same exact problem here. My FH has A TON of friends who are like family to him. I have a couple of friends that I am close to but still would not necessarily consider them to be in my wedding party. So instead of making him choose between his friends and making me choose people I do not actually care to have involved in the wedding beyond being guests and having a good time, we realized that our siblings were going to be in our wedding party anyways. I have one sister and he has one brother. My sister would have been my matron of honor anyways and his brother was going to be his best man no matter what so we just decided to spare peoples feelings and only have our siblings up there with us.