Bridesmaids

I would say her being a flake should be a factor rather your closeness with her. I mean if she is someone that you want by your side day of that should be the main decision. However, while it may be hurtful you should not invite her just because you are worried about offending her. IMO your bridal party should be ladies you want there next to you the day of .

I would ask her to be a bridesmaid. Definitely not maid of honor because you are going to need to depend upon your maid of honor to help and be dependable. If she cancels on you for being a bridesmaid then your just out one bridesmaid which to me isnt as bad as being out a maid of honor.

I would ask aha. I’ve a friend who I always say is a mess because she’s very unorganized and she’s usually late and she’s just all over the place but her energy is so pure and she’s fun to be around and she’s really a great friend. So I didn’t want to choose someone based on how well I think they’d be as a bridesmaid. My husband even joked saying he thinks she would be late to the wedding aha

From personal experience, I asked one of my best friends to be in my wedding, knowing she could cause problems and I regretted it. Basically she is suuuper stingy with money to the point of not wanting to spend more than $40

Sorry it cut off and she cant drive, didnt help plan anything, and was constantly asking if she could bring her boyfriend to everything. Bridesmaids are not supposed to be your slaves by any means but it definitely makes your life a lot easier when you can plan events and not have to babysit anyone

I only have my sister as my matron of honor. My five best girlfriends and I all went dress shopping so they could all pick out their dress to wear as guests. But I didn’t want them to have to pay for a dress and hair and shoes and all of that, when I would rather them just enjoy the day.
***Best piece of advice I’ve heard is wait until much closer to your actual wedding date to ask your bridesmaids to be a bridesmaid. A lot can happen over the planning process, and her true colors will show.

Don't formally ask your bridal party until about 8-10 months from your wedding--a whooole lot change pretty quickly.

Also, I highly recommend choosing people you truly feel are the closest friends to you in your life. If her flakey behavior hasn't caused any major issues that has cause your relationship to suffer (which, it sounds like, hasn't happened) and you feel she's one of your closest friends, then ask her. Always ask your favorite people: don't ask (or avoid asking) based on what you think that person can do for your wedding.

Ill say ask because with your wedding she of course would want to be apart of your big day.. .

View Quoted Comment Agree! So true

Thank you all! Really good advice!

I honestly feel that someone who is giving you that little thought in the back of your head that it may not be a good idea to have, I would not ask her... If you plan on keeping it a small wedding party then she should understand. It’s your day and you want it to be perfect with no worry that someone can’t fulfill their duties as a bridesmaid! She can still celebrate the shower and the big day!! Do what’s best for you! It’s your day, keep that in mind!!!💕

She might be a flake, but obviously she’s still your good friend. So I would definitely have her as a BM. You’ll have other bridesmaids too and they’ll work as a group. However, you desire for a “problem” free wedding/pre-wedding events shouldn’t be more important than your friendship. Your friend isn’t perfect but neither are weddings.

Just ask her but maybe make 2nd plans in case she doesn't show