Bridesmaids

You can do something as fancy or as low-key as you'd like! A text or phone call or asking in person are all great ways to ask them. They are low pressure and personal, and it saves you money. If you wanted to give a gift basket, you could totally do that too. If you do decide to give each one a gift basket, I suggest waiting until after they say yes before giving it to them, since it might put pressure on them to say yes (especially if you purchase things that are personalized with their names and/or role on them). My bridesmaids each live in a different state, so I mailed mini customized puzzles to each one to ask them to be in my wedding party. They were fun for them to put together, and also pretty inexpensive.

View Quoted Comment That’s a good idea the people I want to ask all lives a city away from me but one she lives in a different state

I didn't. But I know gifts to ask are very popular. I do agree with the previous poster I would give the gift after they say yes that way they don't feel pressured into saying yes just because you got them something.

In our social circles, these are not done because it’s considered a Pinterest trend that doesn’t serve a purpose except to pressure people into saying yes they will be a bridesmaid even if they can’t afford it or don’t want to. We saved money for non wedding related thank you gifts according to their individual interests given at the rehearsal dinner.

View Quoted Comment We just asked in person with our words.

We reached out to see if they could come in from out of state first, then so started a group chat and asked them all at once. Nothing fancy.

There are no rules! Do whatever you feel like. I felt so pressured to do a fancy gift box or customized photo card after seeing lots of girls post theirs on Instagram, but utimately decided I'd rather spend that money on a thoughtful gift for each of them the weekend of the wedding. So I just picked up some cute friendship-themed cards from CVS and wrote each of my bridesmaids a thoughtful note asking them. For those I was closest to, I also added a gift card and/or some flowers to make it more special. My friend used small potted flowers to ask her bridesmaids - affordable and unique!

View Quoted Comment Thank you I know what I’m going to do

My friend did one for me! It was cute and I got some free loot. I didn’t send one out though because I didn’t want to buy them items they might not use.