Bridesmaids

I wouldn’t say anything. Who knows, maybe she thinks it looks great, and you saying it looks terrible would probably make her feel bad.

Oh that's a hard thing to approach gah. Especially .. does she think herself that it's nice?

Don’t say anything. The only thing you will notice in your wedding pictures is the joy on everyone’s faces!

I wouldn't say anything. I was in a wedding where the bride asked the one bridesmaid to change her hair. It was very colorful. She ended up making it navy blue and platinum. Not less colorful in my book lol. After only 3 months, I've already realized I won't look at most of my pictures. She might bother you in a few but someday you won't even notice.

Ughhhh. People seem to lack common sense. I feel like regardless it will be a lose lose situation. If you tell her she’s going to be sad and not change her hair but if you don’t tell her she’ll be happy and won’t change her hair.

Im sorry. Like someone else say maybe you wont notice it as much in the future.

Personally, I wouldn’t say anything. Nothing good will likely come from it. You obviously love your friend and plan on having her in your life if you asked her to be in your wedding- I say just enjoy her being part of your day

Her hair isn’t any of your business. You shouldn’t say anything.

View Quoted Comment Yes, exactly. She might not like how you are doing your hair either. But so what? Your ladies are not actresses chosen for their looks, in a movie of your wedding. They are people, friends and family, and it is a package deal : the looks and personality come together, that's the deal. You want her there. Would you drop her if she had a bruise on her cheek from a kids' baseball? No, it is what it is. Accept it. Come wedding day, you won't care. Peoe who want to see your wedding pictures don't care if clothes match, or hair color looks weird. They care about your expressions, who looks happy.

Usually if you dye your hair, you can’t immediately dye it again without ruining your hair. She may know it’s awful, but at this point there’s nothing she can do but wait. You can ask about how she’s going to style her hair, but you can’t tell her to change the color.

Let her keep her hair color. I assume you didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid based on her hair color?

Since you said that you don't like what the did to her hair, I personally think you should approach this in a different way than what most suggested. I personally would probably feel the same way as you do and would wonder why she made such a drastic change right before your wedding. It really is your day and yes you still love and care about all of your bridesmaids but it's just a little bit of courtesy to at least check with the bride before doing something so drastic.

This is going to probably sound mean but I would suggest having a talk with her and just let her know that you are surprised with the new hair change. Get an idea of what she was going for and maybe find out why she did it. Maybe she already knows that the color is really different from what you envisioned and maybe she was planning on wearing a wig or doing something else with it. Either way you won't really know what happened or what she's thinking until you have a talk with her.

Now I'm assuming that she dyed her hair something really out there as to why you are kind of freaking out about it. Maybe suggest some hair styles or accessories where the hair looks a little more of like what you envisioned. It's hard because you may really end up hurting her feelings but really... she should have known what she was doing especially since she was going to stand in your wedding and didn't let you know about this spur of the moment change. Just be nice about what you say and how you say it to avoid hurt feelings. With her being such a good friend hopefully she will understand and try to do something.

I do agree with some others on that it's just one day and nobody will be fixated on one persons hair but if it stands out that much and is making you feel not okay, I think it should be addressed. These photos and videos will be around forever so I don't know, I'd be a little hurt if this were me because it puts you in an awkward position. I would not plan on removing her from the wedding party but I think it's worth having a conversation about to let her know that the hair change was a shock and see if there's anything that you two can come on agreeance with. Best wishes!!

I wouldn't say anything! Who knows, maybe she didn't intend on it turning out the way it did and she's feeling down about her appearance, having a friend say "you hair looks terrible, it can't be like that for my wedding" could crushing Maybe she plans to get it fixed, but needs to wait because you aren't supposed to immediately dye your hair again without it ruining it further. Maybe she'll wear it in a way that it won't be so noticeable.

Whether she meant for her hair to turn out the way it did or not and whether she changes it or not, remember that she's not a model hired to be in your wedding photos, she's a friend. Her appearance really shouldn't matter.

Please don't say anything to her! It can really damage your friendship and her self-esteem if you tell her that

No you don't say anything. Her hair, her business.