Bridesmaids

Our friends are individuals and should be treated as such, so we gave them as much freedom as possible when choosing their attire and hair/makeup. We gave a color and length and they chose their own dress style, they also chose their own hair and makeup. My thought is that their hair style has absolutely zero impact on my day, but it will affect how happy and comfortable they are. I think that matching hairstyles are outdated and borderline bridezilla-y.

I chose a dress color palette, and then everyone liked the same color and, funny enough, the same dress. I did not care what their hair looked like, and I told them to find gold or rose gold shoes since the dresses were short.

I gave them a color and told them floor-length, but let them pick their own dresses. They also picked their own hairstyles, jewelry, and shoes 🤷🏻‍♀️

Mine are all wearing the same dress and color. They all have tried it on and they all liked it.


In all honesty, I understand that they are all their own individual selves and have different body types but mine all said that it’s my wedding and they’d wear what I wanted

I'm pretty much giving them basic guidelines and letting them go from there.

For my MOH (she's my only bridesmaid), she's been told floor length, chiffon or other non-shiny fabric, and dusty rose color. She hasn't really looked at dresses yet, and I'm open to venturing into mauve, dusty purple, dusty blue, or sage green if those colors suit her better.

For the MOB/MOG we pretty much asked them what they feel comfortable in and gave them a thumbs up because their styles/comfort levels are very similar (3/4 sleeves, street length, a-line, lightweight easy care fabric, no heavy beading, sequins, or other embellishments). No color suggestions other than that it shouldn't clash with the rest of our aesthetic (no so bold oranges or bright reds, for example).

No requirements for hair or makeup other than that my mom actually gets a proper professional haircut before the wedding.

For me having people feel comfortable is most super important, because even though its our day I want everyone to enjoy themselves and feel confident in what they are wearing. Basically as long as everything goes together and doesn't totally clash, I'm happy with it.

I have decided to let the girls pick their own dresses.
I was thinking if all had the same colour then straps/strapless would be how to “distinguish”, and a larger bouquet.
If different colours- 2 colours, only- she would get one and the rest the other.

My girls are wearing steel blue. My mother is wearing a light yellow dress with a dark jacket.

My girls are super easy going. The girls are all wearing the same dress except for my sister. They will all have the same hair n shoes n jewelry.

I'm asking my MOH to choose a dress she loves from her wardrobe. Might add I'm having a low key wedding so no color palette or specifications.

Our wedding is super casual so I gave my girls a dress length and color and told them to find something they loved! We have been very open and back and forth about other options like hair and even shoes! I’m wearing western boots but didn’t want them to feel pressured to wear them (the all picked boots anyways) but I love that each of them can choose something that they enjoy wearing.

When we went dress shopping I gave them the color I wanted and told them to choose a dress that they felt comfortable in (with a few exceptions, ie: no excessive cleavage, has to be at least knee length, and couldn't be strapless). Funny enough, they ended up all falling in love with the same dress lol.

We're starting to discuss hair & make up and I'm letting them do pretty much whatever they want!

I wanted them all to have matching shoes so I bought all their shoes for them

My bm will all wear the same dress, everyone was excited about the dress we ultimately picked and looks great on everyone. The dress is floor length so shoes don’t matter to me. I am going to pay for hair and makeup and they will all have their hair somewhat up but to suit each of them. I myself am not big on jewelry so they will be able to pick out what they want in that department.

I am allowing them to choose their dresses, hair, make up, everything. I don’t like make up and FH’s sister said she would do very minimal for me and the other 2 girls if they want. My hair dresser will be doing mine and my moms hair and I told the girls that if they want her to do their hair too I could get a price for them or if they would rather do their own hair they can do that. For the dresses, I wanted them to be in something they were comfortable in. My MOH already has her dress picked, my sister in law who is a bridesmaid has a dress she likes but is currently pregnant so she isn’t making any final decisions yet since the wedding isn’t until November, and my last bridesmaid and I are going next month to look at dresses since she couldn’t go when the other 2 girls went.

I'm going to have my moh help me choose a few bridesmaid dress options then all my bridesmaids can pick what is best for them. I am asking all my ladies to wear flat shoes (whatever kind they want/have already) and they can decide how they want their jewelry, hair, and makeup. I am not setting tight rules because I know each girl and none are over the top type of people.

I told my girls as long as it’s floor length and a specific color they could do whatever the f they want. Shoes are either silver or nude (again, floor length gown so who cares) oh, my only say was if you get a strapless, grab a shawl to match since it’s an April wedding and it may be chilly. I gave my girls option to get HMU done since I’m not paying, my sis and MOH are doing HMU and my other bridesmaids are doing hair only. Everyone picked the same hairstyle so that was also easy

To be honest I let them choose everything BUT I think I should have specified to them what I intended to do with my hair so that they avoid it aha because my moh ended up doing hers similarly to mine so I felt it wasn't super distinguished enough. But I had a headband on so it didn't matter anyway I guess

My BMs are my BEST friends, so I want them to feel comfortable and happy. I decided on the color and I let them choose whatever style they like as long as it's the same color and fabric I choose. I will pay for their hair, so I asked them to pick one that they all like. I just ask them to wear nude color heels.

My girls will all have the same color and style of dress, but I will definitely get feedback from all of them to make sure we agree on something they are all comfortable in. Aside from that they will pick their own shoes because the dresses are floor length, as well as their own jewelry. The hair is a little bit trickier for me. Overall, they will be able to choose their style, but I'm going to discuss with them if they all want it to be up or down. My inner cosmetologist wants them all to wear it up because I know its easier to keep a style looking fresh that way, but in the end whatever they are more comfortable with is fine with me. I will also make sure they are aware of my style so nothing ends up too similar.

I honestly didn't care how they wore their make up or their hair. i wanted them to get a dress that they liked. the only stipulation i gave my girls was that they would purchase from the same store in the same color. other than that they were free