Bridesmaids

Oof. Well, did you ever ask a reason? Also, your birthday has nothing to do with your wedding or being a bridesmaid. Have you considered she does have other things going on? Her financial situation was likely affected due to covid and she doesn’t want to over commit? She has every single reason to be mad at you. I would begin with apologize to her and ask what’s going on in her life that maybe she could use support with.

Unfortunately when removing a friend from the bridal party no matter how you put it will just about always end with hurt feelings or worse friendships ending. I'd talk to her and see if you can have a heart to heart. Plus I agree with the other comment that your birthday party is completely separate from the wedding and shouldn't be used against the bridal party if they don't attend.

Bridesmaids do not have to attend anything other than the wedding. Any pre-wedding parties or events are optional. If I were your friend, I would be pretty upset with you as well and would definitely be rethinking our friendship. I would definitely have a heart to heart discussion with her (after you both take a day or two to let the heated emotions settle slightly) and talk. Your feelings are valid, but hers are as well. Having a conversation that is centered around understanding how each person feels and TRULY listening to her will hopefully help salvage your friendship.

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Of course i asked for reasons. I could never get one. I let her off the hook so she can focus on buying a house and building her relationship with her boyfriend instead of stressing over my Wedding. I felt like this was a good thing. She has been working this whole time. Money is not the issue But thank you for your response Amanda

That seems incredibly harsh and hurtful. I hope your friendship can recover.

By removing her from your bridal party you basically said that she’s only important to you if she makes it to your events.
It’s pretty normal to be mad about that.
You say that you get that she’s trying to get her life together and it seems like you know that she’s busy so I’m not sure why you’re expecting her to be at your events?

View Quoted Comment It sounds like she gave you a reason and that reason also directly does involve money. Buying a house...?

I don't see a question? It just says "Thank you all for your thoughts"

View Quoted Comment She originally had that she removed a bridesmaid because she was really busy and trying to get her life together and was unable to attend events for the brids and the bridesmaids didn't take it well.

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Oh yikes. Now I'm understanding these responses, lol

View Quoted Comment Likewise.... i’m assuming this must be edited, and I didn’t realize you can edit posts. That would save me a lot of time when my auto correct screws up and I never proof read haha