Bridesmaids

My MOH already knew that was her role long before I got engaged so I didn’t have to ask her and then I just asked my other bridesmaid in normal conversation. I didn’t find it necessary to buy them gifts to ask them.

Just ask, it’s free.

I just called them. I later bought an in expensive bracelet for each of them, but I’m saving most of the gifts for later on. No need to spend a ton of money to ask them. They’ll be happy you asked them at all.

My MOH is my daughter. I texted a cousin (she hates phone calls) and asked her. I called my bestie and asked her "You were my MOH my first wedding, but would you be willing to a bridesmaid this time?" She said "Absolutely." I just spoke with a cousin and said "Your sister is one of my bridesmaids, and so is my bestie. But, I'm wanting another bridesmaid, would you be my other bridesmaid?" She instantly said yes.

Their dresses are their gift.

MOH - bottle of wine with a personalized label

Bridesmaids- gift bag, candy, hair tie on a card that said "Will You Help Me Tie The Knot?"

I maybe spent $15 total on 4 bridesmaids. 🤷‍♀️

Their thank you gifts will be better and more expensive. But throwing deposits out left and right, I dont have time or money to be extravagant.

I was living out of state when I asked my bridesmaids so I sent them each a cute card with a hand written note asking them to be a part of my wedding. It was inexpensive and simple, but I felt it was personal since I got to write about each of our relationships

View Quoted Comment This I think is perfect. Also, Target has these kinds of cards in the dollar bins towards the front of the store. You can also try online. I think a lot of the trendy pinterest ideas that one bride has puts pressure on everyone else. Personally, I didn't buy into peer pressure and keeping up with the Joneses in high school, so why start now. You can be kind and thoughtful and still not spend a lot. Give them as car expressing what character traits about them make you want to choose them and combine it with a goody bag, or don't, but definitely don't feel pressured by Etsy to get personalized everything.

View Quoted Comment Same - just ask them. No need for the extra fuss.

I just sent them all a text lol. I followed up with a handwritten thank you card after they accepted. I didn't think gifts were necessary.

I went to dinner with most of them individually and asked. I couldnt make it work with one so I called her and asked. I dont think you need to spend a ton of money on proposal boxes, your friends will say yes either way I am getting them gifts to thank them for being a bridesmaid though!

Some of them I had to ask via phone because I live out the country but I asked 2 in person with just a card and small gift! I don’t think it has to cost a fortune, something small (bracelet, wine glass, etc) and a heartfelt card is sweet and not super expensive.

My MOH is my bestie so she already knew and one was my sister which was easy. And we happened to be out to dinner with all our friends and I just asked the other 2. I don't know when it became such a big thing to ask people to be in your wedding. If you feel like you really need to do something, maybe you can just get cards or something.

I went on Etsy and found a candle and a chapstick set that said "Will you be my bridesmaid?" on the box. Sent them that through the mail. Can customize for maid of honor, etc. Don't think it was too expensive.

I just bought a set of personalized cards from Etsy (name and wedding role) and wrote a note in each. I didn't feel like I needed to give a big box of stuff that they probably didn't want anyway. The notes were heartfelt and went over really well.

I sent wood jewelry boxes ($10 from Michaels), nail polish ($1), liquor shooters ($1), and hair ties ($1).

Just ask. And explain what you see their commitment as. Many people cringe at these boxes, they are afraid the bride will want OTT bachelorette, etc.

Giving them the box puts pressure on people to accept, even before they hear what dresses will cost, will this be DW, etc.

I didn't want to "just ask" I personally think the little "bridesmaid proposals" are the cutest thing, but like you I didn't want to spend an arm and a leg so I got "Will you be my bridesmaid?" candles! They were $10 each! The girls loved them. You could also see if a local bakery does cookies that say Will you be my bridesmaid. No need to do a whole bridesmaid box!

For my 3 bridesmaids I just got white boxes from Michaels, on the top of the box I wrote "I cant say I Do Without You" then put a balloon inside the box with the words "Pop Me" and inside the balloon was a little note asking them to be my bridesmaid. I also added some stickers and ribbon to make it look pretty. For my MOH I made a collage of photos since we've been best friends for the past 10 years. At the bottom of the collage I wrote, "You'll be my best friend forever, will you be my Maid of Honor for a Day?"

I think total I spent maybe $20.

I am inviting mine out to a champagne brunch.

I just called mine on the phone and asked them. Didn't cost me a thing!