Bridesmaids $

If she’s doing it for free that’s awesome! My bridesmaids paid for their dresses but I’m gifting them earrings & a bracelet. They can use whatever shoes they want as long as they’re black.
I’m paying for mine, my MOH (my sister) & 1 bridesmaid (my daughter) hair & makeup- my other bridesmaid wants to do her own. Not because I want a certain look- it’s just a gift. However they will take care of the tip.

Yea I think it’s reasonable to have them pay for the dress but for the hair maybe ask if they’re interested in getting their hair professionally done with whatever person you’re hiring? Because for instance a lot of mine didn’t care to get their hair done by someone else

They pay for their dress, accessories (shoes, jewelry), hair and makeup unless you are requiring a specific look. But never ask them to: change hair color/length, cover tattoos, remove piercings.

They should pay for their dress, though you need to ask for their budgets first, but if you want professional hair done you need to pay for it. If it's optional they can pay for it if they want it.

My bridesmaids are paying for their dress/ assessories, hair and makeup. Every wedding I've been in I've paid for my own stuff.

View Quoted Comment I feel like it’s appropriate. Especially because they arnt paying for Bach party.. which again is fine but I’ve heard that some do. I also got them their getting ready robes with their names on them.

View Quoted Comment Mine are chipping in for Bachelorette as well which they all are fine with. I want to do robes but trying to find the best place to get them.

It is fine for them to buy their dresses as long as you talk with each one individually about their budget. As for hair, if you are requiring them to have their hair done professionally then you should pay for it. If it is optional, then it's fine for them to pay for it.

My bridesmaids paid for their dresses and accessories (which all I asked was that the shoes were black), and I had a family member who did their hair and makeup.

When I was a bridesmaid, I paid for my dress, accessories, hair, and makeup (hair and makeup being professionally done at the salon the bride selected). This did end up being very pricey - about $600. Plus a gift. The MOH tried to also get me to shell out for the bachelorette party, which she wanted to be at Disney - between my share of the bride's ticket, meals, and my own ticket and meals, it would have been about $300. I very directly told her I simply could not do that in combination with the bridesmaid requirements and a wedding gift.

It is pretty typical that bridesmaids chip in on bachelorette parties. If your ladies are not, then I would reasonably expect that they would pay for their hair.

Mine are paying for their dresses and accommodations (they are all from out of town) but nothing else. Our parents hosted the showers and we aren't having a bachelorette because of covid complications

Oh also I'm paying for hair and the girls are doing their own makeup (or paying for it themselves if they want to go to the salon)

I paid for my BM's dresses, hair and makeup. Every wedding i've been in has paid for hair and makeup (if they wanted it) and we paid for dresses. I don't like the idea of requesting they pay for hair and makeup (unless it's optional, i guess).

It's definitely reasonable (and the norm) for them to pay for their dresses! It's only reasonable to ask them to pay for their hair if getting their hair done is optional. If you're requiring the bridesmaids to have their hair done, then you'd need to cover that cost. I've personally never paid for my own hair/makeup before as a bridesmaid but I know lots of people ask their girls to pay when it's optional. The key is: you can ask them to pay if it's optional.