Bridesmaids zillas!!!!!

I'm sorry. Working with that many girls can definitely have it's frustrating moments. Did you discuss dress budgets with each bridesmaid before picking a dress? Also, I hate to say it, but if you're requiring professional makeup, you should pay for it. Otherwise she's free to do her own. I'd offer the one who doesn't want to buy a dress to come as a guest if she'd prefer. And let my friend do her own makeup and trust her to look lovely.

Did you ask them a dress budget before the dress? Also if you are requiring hair and make up you have to pay. Some girls either way would rather do their own.

Did you ask your bridesmaids budgets before selecting a dress? If it's out of her price range, I can see the issue.

Your bridesmaids aren't required to have their makeup done by a professional.

If you're having issues with all of your bridesmaids, maybe you should reflect on what the real problem is.

I am sorry you are dealing with this. Why is the one bridesmaid saying she can't pay for her dress? Maybe she is having some financial issues, and if that is the case you could offer to help out in anyway possible. One of my bridesmaids is really strapped financially, so I paid for her dress. Hopefully y'all can work something out! Dealing with bridesmaids can be a daunting task sometimes, I get it. However, paying for professional makeup isn't something that should be required unless you plan to pay for it yourself. I personally can't afford to pay for all of my bridesmaids hair & make up, so I gave them the option. Some of them plan to pay and use the professionals, and some of them plan to do their own....and I am okay with that.

Aw man that sucks Tabby!

For the makeup, did you require your bridesmaids to use a professional? If so, you should be rooting the bill. I'm letting my bridesmaids either do their makeup themselves (or no makeup if they choose), go to their own personal makeup artist, or use the mua I'll be using. I'm just asking that they let me know what they decide to do. Same with hair, no requirements. Other than don't have wild colors lol

For the dresses, if the one bridesmaid already knew how much the dress was going to cost and had enough notice to purchase it, I would ask if she's having financial troubles. Then try to work it out from there. When's the latest everyone can order their dress to make it on time? Would you trust her enough to pay for the dress then give her a deadline to pay you back?

For the makeup, if you are requiring them to get it done professionally, you need to pay for it.

The only reason I'm requiring makeup is because the artist wpnt travel to do just my make up unless they all get them done and they are all told from the get go that they are paying for all of it since we are paying for the entire wedding ourselves do they new this ahead of time and the dress THEY picked it out NOT me and the one complaining about it dodnt even pay for her dress her mother did she is by no means financially strapped at all

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Well...maybe her mother paid for her dress BECAUSE she's financially strapped and also trying to find a way to be a part of your day. And no matter the reason you're requiring makeup, you're requiring it, so you should foot the bill. Paying for your own wedding isn't an excuse to pass the expenses along to others.

View Quoted Comment All of this. If you are requiring your girls to wear professional makeup, you should be paying for it. I trust my girls to look presentable with or without makeup.

View Quoted Comment I can understand the frustration if they knew ahead of time that they were paying for makeup and agreed to it, they shouldn't back out of that especially if they know the issue with the MUA. The one complaining about paying for their dress got her mom to pay for it? Problem solved, I wouldn't worry about that anymore then! Uneeded stress! ♡

I don't think doing her own makeup is a big deal. I have two girls doing their own makeup, and I even offered to pay. They just wanted to do their own, no big deal. As for the dress, that is weird, because it's usually pretty clear they pay for their own dress. Was it in her budget when you chose that dress?

I would hope that having your nearest and dearest next to you on your wedding day and keeping their friendships after the wedding day is over is more important than any of these issues.

First off, before dress shopping, budget should be discussed in private with each individual bridesmaid and the dress chosen should be the same price if not cheaper, than the lowest budget given to you OR you can give them a color, length, and fabric and let them choose their own (if you didn't mind different dresses). I'm not sure if you did this, but even if you did, maybe it's possible your bridesmaid has run into financial issues. Have you asked her how you can help her or how she's doing? Be a friend first and a bride second.

Secondly, if you want everyone's makeup done professionally, you should absolutely be paying for it. If this was something you did not want to pay for, you should have found a makeup artist that would travel just for you. Why should your BM's foot the bill just because you want your own makeup done?

If you discussed this with them and they're now backing out, looks like you're kind of stuck. Did you sign a contract with this makeup artist? If not, I would find someone else who is willing to travel just for you and any bridesmaid who would like to get their makeup done can have it done.

View Quoted Comment The. go to salon and get your make up done or pay for her.

Right there with you!! I have 10 bridesmaids and only 3 of them are showing up for my whole bachelorette weeekend. One of them took off work months ago when we set the date for it, then her boyfriend decided to go to an archery tournament that weekend and she decided to go with him instead. Only 3 of my BMs have helped with anything or even asked about the wedding planning. They are all driving me insane with stress!

Ok since everyone is completely missing the point and not reading my responses please stop connecting in this thanks

View Quoted Comment Yes!!! Thank you for actually understanding!!!! Everyone else here has just basically yelled at me and said it's my job to pay for everything NO!!! it's their job to pay for it they were all told this from the beginning!!! So it's nothing new I just dropped on them this has been well known for the last year!!! And I'm dealing with one too that basically isnt being involved at all except to complain and the sad part is shes my fiance's sister!!!!!

I get you told her ahead of time maybe she had something major happen or did not know it was going to be so much. But it seems your only option is to tell her she can’t be a bridesmaid or let her do her own.

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It doesn't matter if you told them ahead of time. It's still inappropriate and wrong of you to require them to pay for make-up, especially if it's only because you want the make-up artist to travel to do your make-up. You're basically charging your bridesmaids for your own convenience and saving your own money by requiring them each to spend more. Seriously not cool.

You are not alone... I am dealing with it too! Everything I ask, they almost all fight me on... future step mom in law too 😥 it has gotten to the point where it is so stressful I literally just don’t ask anymore and if they don’t take care of it then they don’t get to walk down the isle 🙈 unfortunately some bridesmaids just don’t care as much as we wish they did, and we have to accept it! Hope things get better for you! Best wishes on your big day 💕

View Quoted Comment Girl I am right there with ya! It’s not your job o pay for everything, they need to except some of the responsibility that comes with being a bridesmaid, as long as the expectations were set forth and are reasonable, which sounds like they were! 💕