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Bridesmaids Who Dislike Each Other

kel.p, on August 26, 2017 at 3:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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While we are a while out from wedding time (for those who have not seen my intro to myself, my FH was involved in a MVA and is in PT so we are waiting until he's medically cleared to work and we receive steady pay checks to officially set a date so 2019 is worst case scenario.) anyways, long story short all of my best friends dislike each other for various reasons, none involving myself. I'm not sure how I managed to make friends with people who all share negative feelings towards each other, but I did. All of their issues with each other were prior to my friendship forming with them (I moved to this city after, and they've all been knowing each other for longer than I've known them and I became friends with them all before learning of their drama.) I guess the point of this question is: has anyone had bridesmaids who literally all dislike each other? I know they will be willing to set feelings aside for my wedding, but I feel like it'd be awkward for them all as well as myself.

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Latest activity by Katie M., on August 26, 2017 at 4:02 PM

Savvy October 2019
kel.p · on August 26, 2017 at 3:04 PM
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Continuing:
I have not asked any yet, as it is too early. But they have all been very close with me for years and years, so I do know more likely than not, unless something catastrophic occurs, they will all be asked to be a part of my wedding. While I know drama can be set aside, I just feel like the planning stages of bridal shower, bachelorette party, etc. will be extremely awkward for them all.
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fallinthegarden · on August 26, 2017 at 3:13 PM
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Hopefully they're mature enough to play nice.
My MOH and one of my BMs had a huge falling out about 3.5 years ago while we were in college. I've maintained separate friendships with each of them.
I'm not worried about them not getting along. They can be nice for a day or two, even if it's a little uncomfortable for them.
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AMB1984 · on August 26, 2017 at 3:14 PM
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My girls wanted to kill each other in the beginning lol but once things were changed around and talks were given everyone came together and it was perfect
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Hanna · on August 26, 2017 at 3:31 PM
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If I were one of these bridesmaids, I would just suck it up and be nice because it's not my wedding. As a friend, they should just be overjoyed they get to play such a special part in such a special day for someone they love. Then both being bridesmaids wouldn't mean that they would have to get matching tattoos and get an apartment together lol. So I think they should just put aside their differences for one day and be there for you.
They are grown ups, they should act like it for you. If I had two bridesmaids who refused to get along for me I would just kick them out of my wedding party personally. I wouldn't want that hostility when it's uncalled for. But that's just me.
Just give them a heads up who all you're inviting and what kind of behavior needs to be met.
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Amber · on August 26, 2017 at 3:40 PM
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As long as you let them know who else will be involved they need to put on their big girl panties and suck it up, they're there for you on your special day.
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Katie M. · on August 26, 2017 at 4:02 PM
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My mom and aunt were not on great terms when my grandmother got remarried. They tried their best to keep things under control. There was not an issue until the photographer positioned them together and my aunt asked to be moved. It is something I would try to avoid if possible but understand you want all your friends to be a part of your special day. Best of Luck!
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