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Chelsea
Dedicated August 2020

Bridesmaids Vent

Chelsea, on July 1, 2020 at 2:29 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 11
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So I just came on here to vent about two of my bridesmaids who are not being responsive or HAVENT EVEN ORDERED THEIR DRESS! (We are all first cousins) My wedding is August 23, 2020 and The dress website has processing at a minimum of 4 weeks. So I made the executive decision that they will not be in the wedding if they do not order by the end of the week because the dress will not be here. I told the whole group this 2 weeks ago. I think it’s not considerate because they agreed and something activities have already been paid for such as makeup for the whole bridal party. We have a consultation later this month but I’m not sure if I should still include them if they do not order their dress. I have open contact so if they could no longer be a bridesmaid they should’ve just said that. So I just need advise at this point because I’m beyond frustrated with the 2 stragglers that are dragging. How can I individually contact them without being a pushy bride because I’m very blunt!

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Latest activity by Anna, on July 2, 2020 at 10:32 AM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I know it totally sucks that they did not get their dress yet but at the end of the day as long as they can get it by the time it's the wedding i think that's more important.

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  • Blair
    Super June 2021
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    I have 8 bridesmaids total and two still haven't gotten their dresses. I'm just not going to worry about it. I'm not going to beg a grown person to buy or dress or keep in contact and let me know they can't be a bridesmaid. My wedding is in October. I have to give my final count to my coordinator by September 10th and if they haven't gotten their dress I'm cutting them. Sorry not sorry. They're more than welcome to come as a guest.

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  • Chelsea
    Dedicated August 2020
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    At the end of the day I know that’s what matters but I’m really struggling to move forward with make up and gifts etc. because who knows when or if they will order... and they are difficult to catch and talk to it’s like they are even interested. 😩
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  • Chelsea
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    I feel this 100% but I really do not have time because my final counts are July 11, 2020 So that’s the only reason I just absolutely want to know. They are still invited but time is ticking and I have bridal party things planned and have to pay for flowers and makeup and gifts.
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    Legend June 2019
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    One of my bridesmaids literally got her dress three days before my wedding aha. it was annoying but at the end of the day she got it when she needed to.

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  • Blair
    Super June 2021
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    At this point do what’s best for you. Don’t let others incompetence stress you out.
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  • Christina
    Devoted July 2020
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    Nope let them go. We are grown and we are adults and those that choose to act immature and irresponsible on YOUR DAY don’t get to be part of your day. Cut em loose and save money on gifts.
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  • Anna
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    You’ve given them an ultimatum, a deadline really, and that’s a sensible thing. Today’s Wednesday, so if you gave them till Friday or Saturday then you’ll know by then whether they’ll be in the wedding or not and then you can contact makeup etc.

    As for how to word this to those two ladies now, I’d just remind them of what you already said, because after this weekend then there’s no guarantee the dress would be here in time, so by their own choice by not ordering they won’t be in the bridal party. I feel like I would be kinda blunt about it too, but they were instructed two weeks ago to order.

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  • Rea
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    Two thoughts came to mind. 1. Perhaps the cousins are having some financial issues and embarrassed to mention it? 2. You have explained the deadline to them and if it's important they are in the same dress as the rest of the party, either offer to purchase them or plan for them to be aguest. Ok 3. Don't stress yourself out because at some point it will seep into your planning and who wants stress lines in the final days of planning and into wedding day photos? So 4. I'm sorry you are going thru this.
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  • Chelsea
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    This is my whole point !
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  • Anna
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    Aww, I loved me some Raven!!
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