Bridesmaids Shoes...

I think unless you're buying their shoes you cannot dictate what they wear, especially since they have on long dresses and you won't even be able to see their shoes. I am the shortest one in all of our wedding photos, its not a big deal.

Me too. I'm even shorter than my kids.

Seriously? Every wedding I've been in has had some specification on shoes and I have never been bought shoes by the bride. She is just saying 'flats' not which specific ones. I've been told 'silver shoes', 'black heels', teal flip flops as shoe requirements. I just go out and find shoes that fit the criteria given that I still like.

Actually she wants all their shoes to match which means she is specifying exactly what the bridesmaids have to wear. If she gave a guideline that would be fine, nude (or whatever color) in any style would be an appriprate guideline but I don't think its appropriate to dictate exactly what shoe your bridal party wears unless you are purchasing them for each girl.

Both my MOH and My Bm are taller than me, by about 4-6"... FH is 6'.. I'm 5'2.. I could care less if they're taller than me. I didn't even tell them what color shoe to wear, because at the end of the day, no one will really see their shoes. I want them to be comfortable and choose whichever shoe they're comfortable wearing.

If you want shoes to match, you should pay for them.

You don't. This is perfectly normal to have some stipulation on shoes. Saying 'black flats' is fine, or nude flats, or brown flats. Most people have those in their closet. If they don't, then buying a pair will probably be useful in life to have. If you are going to say a weird colored flat, I'd probably be more inclined to cover the shoe but as I said before, I've never had anyone pay for my shoes and I've always been given some sort of guideline.

I don't think it's necessary their shoes match. I've been in 2 weddings and both brides requested we were specific shoes. Both times, they were uncomfortable and both times our shoes showed up in exactly NONE of the pictures. You can't see them in long dresses. I'm 5'2" and I have bridesmaids ranging from 5'0" to 5'9". I'm just letting them wear whatever they want!

So is your issue with the bridesmaid being taller than you if she wore heels or is the issue that you want them all to match shoes? I don't think you need to worry about standing taller than anyone since you will be standing out the most. If it's a shoe issue I don't even think that would be a big deal since the dresses are long.