Bridesmaids Questionable???

Have you tried reaching out to her asking if everything is okay with her or if you guys could set up a time to talk?

I would start with that. If she doesn't respond after a week maybe just bluntly ask her if she still wants to be a part of your day since you can't seem to get in touch with her?

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Yes - I've tried several times, with the most recent being yesterday. She and I have been best friends for a long time, so it's just discouraging to me. Maybe I'll hear from her but if not, I'm glad I have a backup.

I'm sorry they went MIA on you especially getting close to your big day! I always ask brides a few questions considering their bridesmaids.
-Did you ever communicate with your brides on what you expected from them?
-What do you expect your bridesmaids to do for you during this wedding process?
-If they do not meet your expectations, is it worth to have them step down with the possibility of ending your friendship entirely?
-Does choosing a maid of honor or bridesmaid have a significant meaning to you as the bride?

Things to consider!
-There is no exact rule or contract stating what bridesmaids have to do.
-What is expected is different for every bride and for every bridesmaid. Brides will assume and so will bridesmaids. A bride may assume that her bridesmaids will help, but what if the bride doesn't say anything and just expects her girls to do it? Unless there was some type of communication for help then the bridesmaids have no clue.

Now here are some suggestions!
-I suggest not to replace or ask them to step down unless you are prepared to possibly end your friendship with them. Yes, it's discouraging and upsetting for them to not help you or be there for you on your special day, but it is totally up to you if you feel as if you were disrespected. Only you can make that decision and it's up to you on how you want to take the situation you know?
-I was not a bridesmaid for one of my friend's wedding, but I was an usherette. I still helped where she needed help to make sure her day went smoothly. Why? Because that's just who I am and it's what I do. It's not to say her bridesmaids were not helpful, but I'm not afraid to be a little bossy if something needs to be done especially if it is requested by the bride lol.

So, just take these into considerations. I feel as if this is always up to the bride depending on how she is affected in situations like this. I'm really hoping she contacts you soon or picks up your next phone call to her.

What are your expectations of a bridesmaid? Many brides only ask for them to buy a dress, show up to support the couple on the wedding day and have fun at the reception. Reach out to her with a phone call and ask how she is. Don’t discuss wedding plans at all at this time. Sometimes friendships run their course no matter how long you have been together and other times people are under stress for any given reason and don’t feel comfortable expressing that.