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Just Said Yes October 2021

Bridesmaids Proposals

Kristi, on January 13, 2020 at 3:10 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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Hi everyone!!

Now that the holidays are over my fiancé and I are finally getting ready to have an engagement party to celebrate with our close friends and family.
I thought about using that time to pull my possible bridesmaids aside and ask them privately if they would be in my wedding party. However, some people have urged me against it just in case someone gets mad that they weren’t asked or someone I ask doesn’t feel uncomfortable if they can’t do it.
Was wondering if I could get other options, Thanks!

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Latest activity by Mcskipper, on January 13, 2020 at 3:33 PM

Legend July 2019
MrsD · on January 13, 2020 at 3:12 PM
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I would ask them prior privately if they can afford it & have the time. Then maybe announce it or give cute proposal gifts at the party?
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on January 13, 2020 at 3:13 PM
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If you're doing it in private, I don't understand how anyone could get mad. I also don't see how saying no, in private, at the party would be any more uncomfortable than saying no, in private, not at a party. I do, however, think that this is way too early to establish your bridal party. It's recommended to wait until 10-12 months out since relationships can change.
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Master January 2015
null · on January 13, 2020 at 3:15 PM
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I would definitely ask each one of them individually so no one feels pressured to say yes. I would also recommend waiting until at least a year out until your wedding, relationships can change a lot between now and your wedding day.
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Mcskipper · on January 13, 2020 at 3:33 PM
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I don’t think “in private at a party” is really private. Someone will see you pulling people aside one by one. Someone will see someone reacting. And even if in private, the excitement/vibe of the party could still pressure someone into saying yes before they’re really prepared to do so. So I think the advice you’ve been given is wise.
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