They’re cute but definitely not necessary. If you have the budget I think they’re good to do but it’s totally fine to skip them too. I feel like thank you gifts are much more important than proposal ones
So I mentioned it to all my girls ahead of time to feel it out, I ended up doing boxes just because they were super cute and only spent $15 on them so not too pricey and I made each one like a birthday present with things they liked and would use and nothing that said bridesmaids or wedding stuff. Totally optional but they all loved them! Each one had a different little saying too.
I just did a video call. Pre-COVID I would probably have taken someone out to lunch and asked then. I can see the appeal of the proposal box, however I think it is kind of pushy and doesn't allow them a lot of room to say no since you essentially gave then a gift for something they have yet to agree to. To each their own though. They certainly seem to be popular, at least from what I see on WW.
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I only saw some of the other comments after I posted mine. I DO think giving a gift after they agree to the position would be a great idea, either right after their acceptance or at the wedding. Not really a 'proposal' gift anymore but instead a thank you.
I think something small is cute, but feel a lot of brides feel the need to go totally overboard. No shame on that, but I’m never going to use a pen with a giant fake diamond on it haha. I gave each of my girls an engraved water bottle with their name on it (so no peeling vinyl), a box of chocolates, and a handwritten note on how much I’d love for them to stand by me on my wedding day. The notes were on the back of my “will you be my bridesmaid” cards. Picture attached from one of my bridesmaids!
I think it’s totally worth it! I asked my first bridesmaid yesterday and she was over the moon when she opened it! I totally didn’t need to and could have easily asked through a text or at coffee, but I love the idea of putting the boxes together. We did simple things like chap sticks, pens with diamonds on them, a shawl, candles in the shape of succulents, hand cream, flower seeds, a bracelet, a Scrunchie and a card with the date on it. But seeing her face when she realized what it was made it totally worth it! She’s already thanked me multiple times and I honestly am so excited to give my other boxes out over the next few weeks! It’s such a sweet moment to have with your girls individually. My FH is giving boxes to his guys too and I know he’s really excited for those. So they aren’t needed but it was totally worth it in my experience!!
And I also definitely agree with giving more individual gifts closer to the wedding as a thank you is very important! I guess it’s a “know your crowd” thing. None of the girls I’m asking would ever say yes because I gave them a gift. If they didn’t want to, they’re all adults and we have great communication so they’d say “thank you so much but i have to decline” and we’d go on as normal. So if you’re worried about that or pressuring them, maybe don’t give them a proposal box! But I’m not worried with my girls or with my FH’s guys so we made them!
I used dollar store tiki cups that I wrote on, the girls had the luau glasses (no picture sorry 😞) inside for the men is a pack of gum and mints with a message from the groom. The girls had a mini bottle and candy with a message from me.
For Bach party I had shirts made and a tote bag and some little things, and for bridal party gifts I have mirrors jewelry boxes with their wedding day jewelry inside.
I think they are cute. However I gave the gifts a week after they agreed to be in the wedding. The reason is because some people feel a lot of pressure to say yes about being in the wedding because you gave them a gift, regardless of how much you spent on the proposal gift it adds a level of pressure on someone who might not want anything to do with being in a wedding.
I honestly believe it depends on the type of people you are asking because some may feel pressured. Now in my case my bridal party already knows how extra I am I usually go all out on birthday gifts, Mother’s Day, Christmas, etc so they won’t expect nothing less than a proposal box. The first pic is for my sister she is my maid of honor & the second box is an example of one of my bridesmaids box. I ordered the stickers for the wine glass on Etsy & did it myself. Probably spent 15 on each bridesmaid & about 20-25 bucks for my maid of honor!
I did it because I had some wiggle room in my budget to do so. And I am so glad I did! The excitement from my bridal party (I only had two, a maid of honor and a junior bridesmaid) made it worth it and they loved their boxes because I included personal details. I wish I had taken photo to show you. But definitely do it if you have the wiggle room and a small party, but if you have a large party and not a lot of wiggle room, maybe a simple asking could work. I would just send a card and a small gift, it never has to be a big box or anything,