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Sara
Savvy March 2021

Bridesmaids paying for dresses. help

Sara, on March 4, 2020 at 3:50 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 16
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If the bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses, is it wrong for me to want them all in the same style? I am in LOVE with this specific dress on Azazie and vision it to look AMAZING on every one of my bridesmaids, but wasn't sure if it was wrong to choose something for them when they're paying for it? I'm paying for hair/makeup to make up for them paying for their dresses. I'm torn so any advice is so much appreciated!

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  • Dayna
    Expert March 2021
    Dayna ·
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    I think it's fine. Mix and match dresses have only recently become popular and lots of brides still choose one dress style for everyone. I paid for my own MOH dress (ok my mom paid for it because I was 16) for my sister's wedding and didn't have a problem with her choosing the dress. I think out of courtesy it would be nice to mention to your BMs that if they feel really uncomfortable with the style they should let you know, but if you honestly believe it will look good on everyone it should be fine.

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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don’t think it’s wrong for you to want it in a certain style
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  • Kelsi
    Expert June 2020
    Kelsi ·
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    I think it’s pretty normal to pick what they’ll wear. Even if it’s one design.
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  • Sarah
    VIP September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I think it’s ok as long as you’re taking their individual budgets into consideration and you’re willing to listen to any concerns.
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    My bridesmaids paid for their own dresses and I picked them out. I just made sure to stick to a reasonable cost. My goal was $125/dress. I think they ended up $136/dress.
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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    It’s your wedding so choosing the dresses is fine. I would just make sure they are in budget for everyone.
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  • Rosabelle
    Dedicated May 2021
    Rosabelle ·
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    It’s not wrong it’s your wedding and you decide what you want
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  • Caila
    Devoted August 2020
    Caila ·
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    No it's not wrong! If you wanted you could always ask what their budget range is, that way you're not having them spend more than they can afford?

    But, bridesmaids should know their is typically cost involved when being in a wedding. Smiley smile Like PP said, it's your wedding and you should have it look the way you want!

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    As long as it's in budget for them, I think that's fine. I'd just consult them privately on how much they were hoping/planning on spending. I'd also make sure they are all comfortable with it. I chose a color, length and fabric from Azazie because I knew some of my girls wanted more revealing dresses and some wanted more conservative ones.

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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    As long as you’re respectful of their price point, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with selecting their dress. I’ve always paid for my bridesmaid/maid of honor dresses and about half the time the bride picked out a specific dress. I never thought it was a problem.
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  • Sara
    Savvy March 2021
    Sara ·
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    Thank you EVERYONE! Smiley heart

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  • Ashley
    Expert November 2020
    Ashley ·
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    My girls are all paying for their dresses and they're all the same style from Azazie too! My matron of honor/sister will be in dusty blue while my 3 bridesmaids will be in dark green/evergreen. I specifically used Azazie not only because I fell in love with a particular dress style, but also because the quality is really good while being inexpensive. The dress I picked for them is $99 and since there is free custom sizing, alterations won't be costly (only the straps need to be taken in). They will also be covering the faux fur shawls they'll be wearing since I'm getting married outside in the Rocky Mountains of Colorado at the end of November.

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  • V
    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    It's definitely okay. I would check with each girl individually on what they can afford to spend. I wanted all of my girls to wear the same dress, but I talked to each of them privately to discuss what they could afford. They paid for the dresses themselves. I think it is pretty common.
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  • Day
    Dedicated July 2021
    Day ·
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    It’s your wedding and your vision... so absolutely go with what your heart desires. With that being said consider 1) the pricing of the dress and 2) the style of the dress for different body types.


    My bridesmaid dress was $205. I can’t justify the cost in my head because I’m honestly never gonna wear it again. Note that I’m already spending $800 on travel.... and I’m planning my own wedding as well. I ended up paying $250 because I didn’t pick up my dress on time.... so check into storage fees.
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  • Nefetera
    Rockstar March 2015
    Nefetera Online ·
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    I dont think it wrong bc it's your wedding. Giving them more than one choice is a better option
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  • Lena
    Devoted May 2021
    Lena ·
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    It's your wedding so you get to decide Smiley smile

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