Bridesmaids not answering??

Do they answer when you contact them about things other than your wedding?

I would call them. I get into the bad habit of just texting and sometimes ALOT of times actually- Someone texts me, I read it and I have every intention on responding and then I get busy with something else. Just give them a call and talk to them.

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View Quoted Comment Sometimes yes my maid of honor will my bridesmaid wont regardless of what I try and talk to her about

I don’t tolerate being ignored lol. So I would reach out 1 last time and if there is still no response then they should be cut from the bridal party. It might make you more stress because you’ll have to find replacements or your FH will have to get rid of 2 of his men.

View Quoted Comment Yes lol I'm a very organized person I finally got the chance to ask my last bridesmaid since shes been sick and I'm so excited and relieved that I have her because we both have the same organized personality lol. My bridesmaid I've tried to get ahold of her for almost a month so it's kinda frustrating.

View Quoted Comment If it’s been a month it’s obvious she doesn’t want to be apart of it (that’s just my opinion) so you need to make chances fast!!

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That isn't necessarily true. You definitely should not find replacements for the sake of having two more bodies with you. These are people that should mean the most to you. Uneven bridal parties are super common and normal. If by chance the two bridesmaids back out or do not order their dress on time there are plenty of processional ways to make the bridal party look great and not awkward/uneven.

I'd call them, or try to talk to them about non-wedding things. Give them a timeline and say if their dresses are not ordered by x date they will be late and won't be able to stand with the bridal party. You could also offer to pay for the dresses if you are that stressed about it and they can repay you if finances are their issue.

View Quoted Comment I was thinking of that option as well!

Oh my god my bridal party initially was the worse about messaging aha. They felt so unresponsive to me and I eventually aired out my annoyances of them not stepping up and it got better. I've always been aware that everyone has stuff going on in their own lives but I also felt like I'm just asking them to talk to me a bit more like answering back on a more timely manner. So there's a balance between being understanding of their own lives and also wanting them to be a bit more helpful

View Quoted Comment Yes lol I understand that as well. I knew my maid of honor went on vacation so i was like I'll wait till after to so she can enjoy her vacay but with my bridesmaid it's been a month I went to check the dresses for shipping estimates and found out the are out of stock and dont know when or even if they will be back in stock is what it said 😬😅

What was your friendship like before they became bridesmaids? Were they known to answer text messages in a reasonable amount of time? Did you talk/hang out on a regular basis? Were they always reliable people? Sometimes when people ignore texts (ghosting) its because they don't want to deal with what you're asking/don't want to give you bad news. So it could be that these girls don't want to/can't buy the dress or possibly that they are innocently forgetting to answer you. I had a bridesmaid that was terrible at answering texts, however she always did what she said she'd do and she's been like that for years. So it never worried me if she didn't text me back. I have "flaky" friends (that I did not have as bridesmaids) that if they are ignoring me its safe to say its on purpose because they don't want any part of what I'm asking but just don't want to deal with saying no. So I'd analyze your friendships a bit, try to make plans with them and ask them in person about the dress and if they ignore all efforts then unfortunately I don't think you should count on them being in your wedding

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the response both maid of honor more than bridesmaid responds pretty quickly till now.they both were so excited and now that it's getting close they arent answering. The dresses are out of stock and dont know when or if they will restock. But I think I'm just stressing too much about it 😅

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That's definitely stressful!! I think it would help ease your stress a little if you found a different dress that's currently in stock instead of worrying about the current ones coming back in stock, and gave them a hard deadline of a week or so from now

Possibly your bridal party thinks they have more time left to get their dresses. Give them a deadline - if they don't get a dress, they don't get to stand with you at the wedding. They can attend as guests!

View Quoted Comment How do I put this? Lol I dont want to come off rude but I mean I chose them because I thought they would be involved I've tried calling when they both were active and no one would pick up 😬 I'm also trying to figure out a good deadline to give them. It's just frustrating

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Unfortunately, there's no nice way to word this! As bridesmaids, the only thing required of them is to buy the dress and stand at your wedding. It's possible they're having financial struggles and are too embarrassed to tell you. Check in on them as a friend - be a friend first, bride second

View Quoted Comment Thank you 💛the thing is I picked a $15/$20 dresse that way no one would be breaking the bank or stress cause that's the last thing I want but they showed me a dress they liked which was more spendy and they decided they wanted that one instead which is why I dont believe it's a financial issue sadly

View Quoted Comment I can’t stand replacements at weddings. Like what do you tell the replacement hey my first choice could not do it so I guess you will do.

My maid of honor and I argued a lot this weekend so it’s been stressful