Bridesmaids & No Groomsman?

You can do whatever. How does your fiance feel about it? Do they not want anyone standing up with them?

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He is fine with it, it was more so my decision & he of course gave me the "whatever you want we can do" speech! I just never heard of it and didn't know if it was weird or not.

I agree you can do whatever you want so if your spouse doesn't want groomsmen then i think it's fine.

If your partner doesn't want anyone standing up there, then that's totally fine!

That should be a decision your fiance makes rather than you. If he truly doesn't want any groomsmen that's fine, but let him make that call.

View Quoted Comment I mean, it's unconventional, sure. But there's totally nothing wrong with being unconventional. Did he specifically say that he doesn't want anyone up there with him or did he say "whatever you want" after you suggested this idea? Sometimes men won't speak up for what they want because they feel like the wedding is for the woman, so I would just make sure he doesn't secretly want his best friend or someone up there with him on the day and is just going along with what you've suggested. Definitely not saying you are doing this! Just something I would be a little more diligent about to ensure his voice doesn't get lost.

Like others, you can do whatever you want. I would just make sure my fiancé truly doesn’t want groomsmen by saying the words, “I don’t want groomsmen, not whatever you want babe.” Good luck to you!

Yeah, I am curious if he said he doesn't want groomsman or if you have told him that is what you want. Any particular reason why you will have people standing up on your side but your fiance won't?

We are in a similar position. My FH doesn't have anyone that he would want there as his best man, and because of that I'm not sure that I want anyone either. It does feel weird to me if I have a MOH or something, and he has nobody. But that is obviously his choice. I did suggest to him that his mum could be his 'best mum' if he wanted.

I’d say it’s definitely his decision. I would want my fiancé to have his friends and family up there supporting him and his marriage to you. If he doesn’t want any, he doesn’t want any. But if he’s saying that because “it’s your day”, that hurts my heart. Also- if I were him I might find it embarrassing and belittling to have guests see you with all your friends and girl’s there and me without anyone. It is your day, but it’s his too 😊 congratulations!!! ❤️

We aren’t having a bridal party at all. So, of course, you can do whatever. But curious why you “don’t want any” groomsmen..... As opposed to your FH not wanting his guys standing next to him too.

Let’s just clear the air he doesn’t do stuff just because I say so if he says whatever makes me happy he legit means it. My husband is blunt and has no filter. So he’s honestly fine with it I just never heard of it. But this is both of our day so whatever we both want we will get. I just wanted to see if anybody heard of that. And nobody will be embarrassed to me I just see my husband surrounded by a lot of pretty females. 🤗🤷🏽‍♀️

View Quoted Comment We both agreed

If he agrees thats fine. I personally hate when people try to make the sides even instead of just asking who they really want to be in it. Also refreshing when a bride is a little different from everyone else!

View Quoted Comment Gotcha!!!!

I think it's totally fine if you and your FH are both on board. However it kind of sounds like this is what you want and your FH is willing to go along with it... him deciding on his own that he doesn't want any groomsmen is a lot different than him agreeing to not have groomsmen because that is what you want.

Whether or not the groom has groomsmen should be his decision, not yours.