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Just Said Yes June 2018

Bridesmaid's money problems

Charlene, on February 28, 2018 at 10:11 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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We all graduated from college a couple of years ago. I get it. We're not rolling in the big bucks yet. But my MOH has made a number of comments to me about one particular BM that has been combatant around every corner about every possible detail or idea regarding money and/or costs. MOH is at wits end and I don't blame her but she has asked that I have a conversation with the BM and I'm at a loss for what to say/how to approach it. Money is such a sensitive subject. I know the bachelorette is going to be local and I gave the girls free reign on picking their own dresses (ie spending what they want to spend) so I feel as though I haven't asked too much of them.

IDK what to do!!! Please guide me!!

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Latest activity by An, on March 1, 2018 at 9:28 AM

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Mrsbdg · on February 28, 2018 at 10:14 PM
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If the MOH disregarded the BMs budget for parties, that's on the MOH. I wouldn't get in the middle of the two.
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Vanessa · on February 28, 2018 at 10:14 PM
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If she can’t afford it she can’t afford it. Don’t pressure your friend to spend money she doesn’t have. The only thing she’s required to purchase is the dress. All else is extra.
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Expert March 2018
Heather · on February 28, 2018 at 10:16 PM
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If she has an issue with a bm then let them talk it out. No need for u to get involved.
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Kelsey · on February 28, 2018 at 10:38 PM
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Your MOH needs to respect that the bridesmaid can't afford to help pay for things and stop bringing up money to her. It isn't the bridesmaids responsibility to pay for anything but her dress and if that's an issue for her she should come to you. There is no need for you to get involved, but just tell you MOH to stop asking.
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muriel · on February 28, 2018 at 11:49 PM
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What they all said.
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Super March 2018
chelsey · on March 1, 2018 at 7:03 AM
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When I was in college I was making like 600 dollars a month. I was able to buy a dress as a bridesmaid for my best friend but definitely had to pick paying for a bachelorette or eating for a week. I chose to be able to feed myself and the bride was fine with that. What does the moh keep asking for money for? If she cant afford extras then she can't afford it.
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WED18 · on March 1, 2018 at 8:12 AM
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Your MOH needs to back off and understand that the BM has a budget that needs to be respected.
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An · on March 1, 2018 at 9:28 AM
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I would try to get a little more info from MOH to try to see what she is requesting of this BM that is making her so combatant, without her spilling any details. If the bachelorette is local what kind of money is being brought up? There is a big difference between chipping in $20 for food and drinks and chipping in $150 for a party bus. Make sure MOH knows that you don't want anyone to spend money they are not comfortable spending and that all pre-wedding parties and events are optional.
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