Bridesmaids + Maid of honor.

I chose my sister in laws, best friends that I’ve known since grade school, and friends that I met through work who are like my sisters . So I had a total of 8, I almost had 9 but weddings make people go mad and I lost a friendship over it. It doesn’t matter the amount of bridesmaids you have really, it’s who you want by your side standing with you witness the day

View Quoted Comment Thank you for he input and the help. It means a lot. I am just stressing over it I guess😂

I agree. It's definitely about quality. If you have 2 or 7 people whole are solidly in your life to support you, that's great! You just want to make sure when you look back at your photos and remember the day, that none of them are the kinds of people who would evoke negative thoughts and feelings in you. I'm having my sister because even though she can be super self absorbed and awful, she's my sister and she'll always be there. I'm also having my best friend of 22 years. She lives 10 hours away, but we've always been there for each other through breakups, my chronic illnesses, my college, law school, and relocations to 3 different states, the deaths of her dad and nephew, I was her MOH 10 years ago, her pregnancy and milestones with her husband and son. There's no question for either of them. I just have to figure out who my third is going to be. It's a toss up between two. I'm sure you'll have some pretty clear candidates, too!

I chose the women closest to me. I had 3 close friends I've had for years and my husband's sister, who I am also close with but unfortunately lives out of state so we don't see often.

I just picked my three dearest friends— the people who I couldn’t possibly imagine my day without. I had considered adding a cousin I adore and my SIL, but ultimately, my relationship with them is very different than with those 3 bffs, and I decided what I really wanted was a crew who could just be there that I wouldn’t worry about AT ALL— people who I didn’t have to preoccupy myself with worrying if they were having a good time/feeling comfortable, getting along, people who I wouldn’t mind feeling vulnerable in front of if I had any sort of stress breakdowns day of. Even though I love the two family members I considered, our relationship was different, and I just wanted that seamless closeness. It worked out so well, I was so happy with my crew.

For my Bridesmaids I chose friends who have been the closest and most supportive of my FH and myself over the course of our relationship and our lives. For my MOH I had to choose between my best friends but had a conversation with them about it before I chose. My one friend quite honestly said she would rather just be a BM as she is anxious about public speaking and being center of attention, she also isn't comfortable with planning and heading the large events (bachlorette party, bridal shower, etc). My MOH is a fantastic planner and communicator and isn't nervous being in charge/center of attention (but won't steal any spotlights by any means). I'm having a Man of Honor as well as my 3rd best friend is my bestie from flight attendant training and he means the world to me. My MOH is standing next to me with my Man of Honor next to her, my daughter JBM between them and my next best friend beside my Man of Honor so the closest people in my life outside of FH are literally all beside me. You have to be comfortable with who you chose for what role in your big day and ensure they are also comfortable in that role. It's totally ok to have an open conversation before an actual bridal party role proposal.

I picked my husband's sisters and my closest friends. They were all friends I talk to often, that I can always count on to be there for me. I think it's important to only ask friends you are currently close with, not friends from years ago you barely speak to anymore.

Good luck! and if it's only one person that's totally fine

Honestly I went about it as who are my closest that I'd want there with me

I chose three of my best friends for my side, and then my FH's side is his brother, my brother, and his best friend. Choose whoever you're closest to - sisters, cousins, best friends, your FH's sisters, etc. They don't have to be women if the people you're closest to are all men! But also, it's totally fine to only have one person on your side of the wedding party. If there's only one person you want standing by your side at your wedding, then don't feel pressured to add more!

This should be easy! pick your closest friends some people have a LOT of close girlfriends and/or family which can make it harder to narrow down. just go with your gut, choose whoever you believe will be there for you and who you trust. don't stress out about this, there's lots of other wedding-related things to stress over! lol Good luck!

Hi! I chose my maid of honor based on who knows me best and who I go to for everything. I don't have any sisters, so that's out. I am using my two sister-in-laws though because they're practically sisters at this point. From there I just chose who I can count on most (which was only really one or two people) and to add a few more I used one of his cousin's and one of mine to kind of further bring in the feeling of our families joining. My parents always said that if you're going between people think of it like a test (not really). But when my brother was struggling to pick his best man (my brother or his lifetime best friend), my dad asked him "if you were to have a flat tire and be stranded, who would come help you?" his answer is who he decided to be his best man (my other brother.) That may be super confusing and not helpful at all, but that's what I did and some little tips that can maybe help you. Congratulations

Choose the people who are your nearest and dearest! MOH and I have been friends since sixth grade. I've also been friends with my BMs for several years. They've stuck with me through everything, so I wanted to honor them at my wedding

I only have 3 bridesmaids. I basically thought of the people I am closest to now and who I anticipate being in my life for the long term. I don't want to look back in 20 or 30 years and be like I haven't seen or talked to half of my wedding part in decades. So it does make it a more intimate group, but I am ok with that. Also be prepared for people to potentially say no (it is a big time and money commitment!), so have some back up plans if needed. I was gonna have my best friend be my Man of Honor, but he didn't feel comfortable filling that role so he is on the groom's side now. So just think ahead in case you come across those situations.

You can have as many, or as little, bridesmaids as you want in your wedding.

I chose my 4 closest friends in my life. MOH is my best friend since high school, BM#2 is also a friend from high school, BM#3 is a close friend from college, and BM#4 is someone I met through my fiance. All of them have shown me love and support throughout the years in their own ways.